What are some good resource's/methods to make and keep long term friends?

[Anonymous]

I haven't had many real friends.

I had 4friends in primary school 1 and a girlfriend in highschool. I have 3 coworkers I consider friends but only 2 of them I have hung out with outside work but they have a lot closer friendships. I had 40+year old friends but have drifted now and they don't talk to me. I met them from a hobby but there's no one my age.

I had a abusive childhood then was realy sick in my teens and got my job at 19 and never went to uni, just got my license these problems have made it a lot harder in every aspect of life.

I have always admired older people who have had the same friends for 20years.

[Anonymous]

I've had the same best friend now for nearly 30 years and I still hang out with several of my high school friends though less so with them because they've got kids/work/ that usual drill.

For us, our whole entire lives, we've shown up for each other when it really matters, we pick up the phone when we call or text, we always celebrate/remember each others birthdays and anniversaries (even if they are sad ones), we talk about the really hard bits of life and acknowledge our weaknesses and struggles without fear of judgement, and we make each other laugh uncontrollably.

I don't know if there is a method per se to getting to this level, but just start off with making the other person feel important. Show up when they ask you to hang out. Share good and bad news with them. If they want a friendship, they will commit.

[Nikki1989]

I have never done anything, it just happens.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Co-workers past or present. Old university buddies or even former university male acquaintances. Whatever 😅

[itsclearlynicholas]

Or just plain joining or unintentionally joining a real life hobby group or social club or car club or just plain something to bond with people over, that's legal, legitimate and real. Duh 🙄🤣😆 would be my upbeat attitude 🎭🎨

[DrPepper12]

Invest in them. You MUST keep in contact. I wish I had rather than let them whither out of anxiety.

[OtterMan68]

be a good listener.
be authentic
have shared interests

[Charli-bear]

Life long friends of mine, and I, have a connection. We've shared some history by creating memories together.