Toxic friendship?

[YevBor]

Hello everyone. I am relatively new in Western society and want to ask you about one thing. I have only one friend in my new country (she is my roommate), and I start feeling, that my friend find me toxic, but didn't want to tell me about this, because it's one of the rules of Western society. How can I push this person to tell me the truth? Thank you in advance.

[laly520]

never knew there is such rule? mostly others do tell when they r feeling toxicity
also being pushy would cause even more toxicity
u didn't give much context so im not sure what u did but bottom line is u could always pick a time when she isn't busy n talk it out calmly aka discuss it

[YevBor]

On my opinion it's because I'm most of the time in bad mood, because of war in my Homeland, worrying about family and friends. She (my roommate/friend) always support me, but I start to see she become tired of support me, because she is only one person who I see each day. I ask her couple of times, but she say she's OK, and this situation not making her exhausted or tired. But I see different. This is my situation. Sorry for my bad English, I hope you can understand what I'm trying to say.

[laly520]

I am sorry for whats happening, my homeland also in war n I have family back home, I live in US so I am so far away from em so I got how u feel n its valid but try to keep ur mood in check
there is with no doubt pressure on her so u need to put some distance n not trauma dump her if u do
do not force or push her to talk, let it be natural
calm urself down, treat her with ease n it shall be fixed on its own unless there is more to it more than what u mentioned

[Anonymous]

Okay, this can be tricky. The best course of action depends on how much you trust your boyfriend. If you generally trust him, a calm conversation might be best. Mention you saw how he saved her number and simply ask who it is. See how he reacts and explain it feels a little weird.

[YevBor]

Sorry, I didn't understand what you mean. My friend and my roommate is a same person. About what boyfriend you talking about?