For the sake of friendship, would you tell your friend you’re catching feelings for them or keep it to yourself? Why?

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DancingQueen16 · Accepted Answer

I actually did have a crush on my best friend when we were still in high school but I was always too scared to tell him because I thought if I said I liked him and he didn't like me back then things would be weird between us but it turns out he actually did like me back and as of right now we've been together for almost two years

Booklover_90 · Accepted Answer

I actually did this and the friendship survived. He was very mature about it. 😊

PointlessNonsenseGuy · Answer

Honestly, if you catch feelings for a friend, you're probably sooner or later going to tell your friend about it. If you try to keep it to yourself, the pressure will just build and build until you explode and do something really embarrassing.

So it might be best to just tell your friend early on, when you still have a little self-control, and can avoid making a total ass of yourself.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I don’t befriend people I am sexually attracted to.  If I am attracted to them, we date.  But if I was developing feelings for my friend, I’d get distant and shift my attention to someone else.

mono_gram · Answer

Depends on how close we are and how much I like them. If it's just casually liking them then I probably won't until I am certain that I like them (and it's a mutual feeling.) Another reason why I might not tell them is that there's the chance of the friendship being ruined or becoming awkward. I would only take the chance if I'm willing to accept that if it happens.

genericname85 · Answer

tell them. cause really if i catch feelings, the friendship is fucked either way if she doesn't feel the same. like i could not tell her, then i'll eat shit every day talking to her (emotionally speaking) and if i do tell her and get rejected, i can't live with that either. so the only option is asking her out and hope for the best.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

it wouldn't happen but theoretically speaking... it would depend on the situation. If we both were single and he looked interested, I would tell. In any other case - I wouldn't

mobiusforniner · Answer

I don’t believe in living a lie. Living with the thought I “could have”. Every girl “friend”, I’ve told them what I felt. It hurts, but I’d rather say it than go my whole life wishing I did, but didn’t.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

My weakness.. I don't have the guts to tell a friend. 😆 He has to give me a sign, for me to tell him. Like a batman signal in the sky, for example haha!

LaurenM1997 · Answer

You can’t keep your feelings from someone you gotta be the bigger person and tell them they can’t guess themselves if they are giving you signs you need to tell him/ her

82lynx · Answer

I had a short-lived crush on a childhood friend when I was 15. When she found out she flipped and cut off all contact. I found her again about 15 years later but she had no interest in my friendship.

DJB72 · Answer

What, again? I'm married now, so I'd keep it to myself. Before I was married I would tell the lady in question.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

If you've been friends for a long time ⌛️, for the sake of the friendship, keep it to yourself because things will be awkward if he doesn't feel the same way.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I would tell them. They deserve to know the truth.

Darkest-Knight · Answer

I'd keep it to myself. A friendship is better than a no-ship.

AviatorTom · Answer

Tell them. They might be having feelings too.

blueonblack22 · Answer

This is exactly why most men don’t like being friends with women who are in dating range.

Hellur991 · Answer

I eventually tell then because keeping it inside will eat me up

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

I told a perfect friend for me and she saved me. And I didn't have the courage to tell her I love you're ❤️ my heart and soul. But I let her walk away from me then because she deserves more than me I ONLY HAVE IS LOVE.

Awesomesauce2005 · Answer

Tell them. If they can't accept that fuck them. They don't have to reciprocate the feelings but if they hate you for it leave.

NathanDavis · Answer

they always told me...

AlexEfron · Answer

Depends on the friend. If I know I'll lose the friendship, I won't. If not, then definitely.

For the sake of friendship, would you tell your friend you’re catching feelings for them or keep it to yourself? Why?

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