Who comes first?

[TonyMetal___86]

Your spouse or your kids or both are equal?

[b_lova]

Depends are we talking I can only save my spouse or my kids lives or who do I put on a pedestal?

For the first question, saving kids if they are not old enough to save themselves. In all other cases the wife comes first. I can make more kids. My kids know I love them and will see them in heaven. Is this a joke... maybe.

Joking aside the spousal relationship comes first. I love my kids, they are all grown now, but they are only temporary residents in my house and have to learn to build a life of their own.

[TonyMetal___86]

Well said

[Drumlin2001]

It's a tough one. And maybe changes over time. When kids are kids I think they have to come first. It your role as a parent to provide and protect them above all else. Once they're grown up then you're partner should be no.1

[TonyMetal___86]

Wise answer 👍🏻

[Pillubi]

With all due respect, I would choose my spouse. Cause he wil be the only who will be there with me. Kids will grow up and move out of their nest to hav thier own lives, I may come across selfish for not choosing kids ( cause generally women are expected to put their kids first) I will love them whole heartedly, and will do my duties as a mom, but I want to spend my life with my spouse peacefully after the kids start having their own lives.

[Juxtapose]

Finally, a comment that speaks my mind!

[TonyMetal___86]

@Juxtapose there still some good real ladies out there 😊, i hope that she finds a man who makes her feel priceless and not a scumbag who will turn her into a sh*tty feminist!

[TonyMetal___86]

@pillubi i really appreciate and respect your opinion, you're a smart woman and you're aware how this life really works!

I hope that tou fall for a man who knows how precious you are and treat you in a way which makes you feel priceless 😌

[Pillubi]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[TonyMetal___86]

You're welcome

[CrabCakes11]

Never have kids.

[JosyJosy]

It'd be fucked up to put one over the other. Equal.

[TonyMetal___86]

Finally an answer which cools the heart 😄
That's how i think miss josy, you're a smart lady...
I mean if i'm married, i can never choose between her and my kids because we are all a family and this woman and kids are my family, i'll jump to save both because i'll never be ME again if i lose one of them!

[JosyJosy]

Some probably said that kids come first, but hubby is the one who made it all possible in the first place and you can't push him aside. Be a mother of your kids, but don't forget to be a wife to your husband.

[TonyMetal___86]

Well said miss josy 😌

[Secret6620]

I'll be honest, I know my husband is supposed to come first BUT I think motherhood might alter my perspective on things.🤱

My first instincts would be to save the children before my husband and I don't know if that makes me a selfish wife. I just really love children and they're our future. We have to protect them and nurture them at all costs.✝️

[TonyMetal___86]

That's if they are kids, what if they were grown up adults?
By the way, why not trying to save both 🤔

[Secret6620]

I thought your question was like a would you rather question. I would save both if I could of course but if I had to choose. It would be the kids.

Now if they're grown that's VERY different. But if it's babies or toddlers we are speaking of. I'm saving the baby.

[TonyMetal___86]

Thanks miss secret, agreed 👍🏻

[Secret6620]

Yay! 😇🙏✝️🙆‍♀️

[Samantha_Stevenson]

I am taken aback by women here who picked kids even when you gave the EQUAL option

I'd never compare or see any difference between my husband and child

[TonyMetal___86]

It's because you're a smart loving lady miss samantha, you know what a family truly means!
A family is "husband, wife and kids" if one of them is missing than the picture will be broken!

[Simslover92]

Well biblically you become one with your husband or wife so they technically come before the kids biblically speaking. But of course if there is a house fire, you're going to go for the kids first over the spouse. So I guess in cases of life or death, the kids would come first.

[TonyMetal___86]

Why would you save your kids and leave your husband? I mean you started it out good but than you ruined it 😄

You know that you can always have kids but to have a good husband again, it's hard and that's if you ever wanna remarry...

I know that this is a hard question but it seems that women are picking the kids easily over their men, i'm just wondering why 🤔

You know when your kids grow up, they will leave you and have their own families, than what?

What you wrote biblically is true, but why mention it if you ain't going by it?

[The_Sexpert]

@TonyMetal___86
Well the fire thing is different... even if a woman loves her husband more the kids are more vulnerable than him in that situation

[TonyMetal___86]

@The_Sexpert why is that? Okay let's say her kids are grown up adults... than what?

[The_Sexpert]

@TonyMetal___86
Well...

[Simslover92]

I mean if the kids are small and incapable of saving themselves then you would pick the kids first right?

[Simslover92]

I'm not talking about grown adults. I'm talking about children.

[TonyMetal___86]

Thanks for clarifying miss @Simslover92
Personally i will save both because they are all my family, better not to live and see one of them missing, that's who i am!

[Simslover92]

I mean I would try to save both but if you have multiple children, that's hard to do.

[TonyMetal___86]

Thanks for sharing

[Simslover92]

You're welcome! 😊

[TonyMetal___86]

😊👍🏻

[dustybiker2]

Spouse and kids (including pets) I have lots of limbs and like an octopus. I can be in many places at once. When you are needed you get things done.

[TonyMetal___86]

Haha cool 👍🏻

[Chikky]

I don't know until I'm there yet, then I can reply to this

[TonyMetal___86]

Since you're single, it can be a hypothetical question...

[Juxtapose]

Spouse.

Are my kids going to hold me at night? Are they going to live with me until they die? Do they choose to be with me? Etc. No, it is a lifelong lover who is going to do that.

[TonyMetal___86]

That's the truth, i mean wether they like us or not, in the end we come to this life once, especially if your wife was someone special, a wife who made you happy, who is the reason of your existence and the reason why you're holding to this life, and such women can be counted on your fingers these days, so losing her means that you have lost yourself, kids will go away eventually and you can always have other kids and the bible is clear, you're only one with your spouse and no one else!

I'll do anything to save both because both are equal to me but deep down inside i know that if was married to a good devoted loving wife than losing her means a big part of me had died, there's no reason to even live anymorr when my kids grow up and have their own families!

[Juxtapose]

^^ I find myself in firm agreement with you.

[Juxtapose]

And frankly I want a lover to love me more than they love anyone else, even themselves.

[TonyMetal___86]

That's natural and fair because you're going to give her the same

[Juxtapose]

^^ precisely. I would be a sucker to give my all and not receive the same.

[TonyMetal___86]

👍🏻👍🏻

[Starrrboy]

I think it would be equal.. but deep down I'd probably love my wife more than anyone else..

[TonyMetal___86]

Thanks for sharing

[Anonymous]

I can't love anybody on earth more than my Wife

[TonyMetal___86]

Thanks for sharing

[Opinion Owner]

Welcome TOny

[HelpfulWoman]

kids by default.
he can go to the toilet, shower, cook and look after himself. my kids can't.

[TonyMetal___86]

Okay that's who needs more care, i'm saying who you will love more and who will be your 1st priority forever?

[HelpfulWoman]

neither. i'm not gonna be some weirdo who feels the need for their partner and kids to compete for affection. since we love them in different ways.

[TonyMetal___86]

But you have already chosen your kids 😄

[HelpfulWoman]

eh, you literally pointed out it was for who needs more care. the love for either party doesn't cancel out the other.
sorry your family is apparently broken enough that was the case. poor dude.

[HelpfulWoman]

nevermind, all confirmed with further reading your comments. bible and woman hitter i'm sure... ; )

[Charliefretz329]

It’s supposed to be spouse first and then children.


Unless she turns into a raving abusive lunatic…

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I loved my family equally..

[TonyMetal___86]

As usual sponge, you never fail me 😄
A wise answer!

[Wiredone]

It depends on how old the kids are.

[TonyMetal___86]

Well said!

[Anonymous]

Kids, always. Both parents should agree on this.

[TonyMetal___86]

Why is that?

[Opinion Owner]

Your job as a parent is to protect your kid.

[TonyMetal___86]

Other than protection?

[NathanDavis]

depends... comes first, on what?

[TonyMetal___86]

Life and death situation, care, love... etc

[NathanDavis]

well... it does not really matter who is first or second, I will take care of both equally and one right after the other so... it would be about efficiency

now, if you meant to ask which one is more important while also neglecting the other... that also depends

[exitseven]

My spouse. We are team

[LaurenM1997]

If I had kids of course they come first

[LaurenM1997]

I would never chose men over my kids

[TonyMetal___86]

Come 1st when it comes to taking care of them or you will also love them more?

[LaurenM1997]

Both ☺️❤️

[LaurenM1997]

My mum always puts her kids first over anything

[TonyMetal___86]

That's because her ex husband is bad man and wasn't even a real loving husband and father towards his kids...

If things weren't this way, what if loved your mom, didn't dump her, took care of her and his kids till this day, would your answer be different?

[LaurenM1997]

Yeah it would be

[LaurenM1997]

Well actually no kids always comes first no matter what

[LaurenM1997]

My mums ex husband wasn’t a bad man they just fell out of love

[LaurenM1997]

I would try solve things with my spouse

[TonyMetal___86]

Okay i get your point, your kids always comes 1st no matter what...
I respect your opinion, even it's totally different than mine

[LaurenM1997]

But Tony your kids must mean the world surely you’d put them first before a woman right?

[LaurenM1997]

Especially if they needed you

[TonyMetal___86]

How can i put then before my wife? If i was married and i had a good loving devoted lady who made me happy and did everything i want and she is the reason of my happiness and because of her i have those kids, shall i just throw her to death?
Remember that god made a husband and wife one and living forever together not the spouse and the kids or the spouse and the parents or the spouse and siblings or friends...

I'll do my best to keep both because they are equal to me and they are my family, they are who i am and if one of them is missing than i'll never be the same again...

Kids needs more care because they aren't adults right! But once they grow up they are going to leave and have their own families, who am i going to end up with?

That's my opinion...

[LaurenM1997]

Ok that’s fair enough

[LaurenM1997]

Ok yes I can see where you are coming from can I change my mind?

[TonyMetal___86]

Thanks miss lauren, i'm just loyal to the people who loves me and trust me!
How come if they are my family? Some women think that men will remarry if their wife dies as simple as that!

Well i'm not one of those guys, it ain't easy for me to ever love again and no one will replace her ofc if she was a good wife!

Each person is unique, when you truly love someone, you just need this person and no one else.

[LaurenM1997]

I get where you are coming from

[TonyMetal___86]

Miss lauren you don't need to change your mind for me, just be yourself, you're an honest lady and i respect your choices because that's who you are!

We were born differrent, people are differrent, they don't need to share the same ideology and the same mindset to get along, unless they wanted to get married 😂😂

[TonyMetal___86]

Where i'm coming from doesn't have to do anything with my personality and my character, i am myself where i'm found, even if it was on another planet hehe

[LaurenM1997]

Aww I’m glad I thought I lost you 🥺 cause of my opinion

[TonyMetal___86]

Hey common, we all have our own opinions, you ain't gonna lose me over an opinion 😄

[LaurenM1997]

That’s good then ☺️

[Twalli]

Kids, but not by much

[OtterMan68]

kids

[TonyMetal___86]

Why the kids?

[OtterMan68]

they are more vulnerable

[TonyMetal___86]

And when they grow up?

[OtterMan68]

they haven't lived as long as my wife and experienced as much

[TonyMetal___86]

Thanks for sharing

[DrPepper12]

Kids.

[Badgirlnatalia]

Kids

[TonyMetal___86]

Why the kids?