How do I navigate this situation?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend’s family are living in poverty and I have lots of good quality, hardly worn clothes to spare. I’ve discussed it with my boyfriend and he is ok with me donating some clothes and other nice things I don’t want to his family, to help them. He’s gotten their clothing sizes for me and they’re all around my size. My mum started off poor; and says I’ll humiliate them by giving them too much at once. If I do. They seem thrilled with what I’ve given them. I don’t mean to embarrass anyone, I just want to help. How do I do it carefully, in such a way that I don’t humiliate them?

[Saramad_Hill]

Really? That's very nice of you, if so.
Your mom might have a kernel of truth to what she's saying, it's certainly possible to make people feel weird when they gain too much too fast. It might feel like they've been given too much and would feel very indebted to you.

I would consult with your boyfriend to check on what an appropriate amount to donate would be. If nothing else, he can discreetly ask his family what they're comfortable getting, if there's even a hard limit in the first place.

You are a dear for wanting to help, and also not wanting them to feel bad about accepting help. I'm sure there's a solution, it might just take asking the recipients themselves what they'd be fine with.

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

Hmm... Split the difference. Don't do as much, as fast you want to do it, but also don't do it as slowly as your mom suggests either.