Is it worse to be cut off immediately or gradually distanced from?

[Anonymous]

Imagine you have a friend with whom you've had an argument. Proper reconciliation doesn't happen and the friend decides to create distance. Which scenario would you argue is psychologically worse for you?

Being cut off immediately: Your friend never talks to you or opens/responds to your messages again

Gradually distanced from: Your friend gradually distances themselves from you, sending shorter and shorter messages, taking longer to reply and using less warm tones when texting (including the lack of emojis)

Being cut off immediately

Being gradually distanced from

[TommyMountainFigure]

Neither. There is nothing forcing someone to be my friend. If they pull away, that's their choice!

[TommyMountainFigure]

It's not something I dwell on.

[rosemilk]

i'd say gradually distanced from. it's like you're slowly fading away and like you matter less and less... compared to just being cut off immediately, that's where there's more confusion than pain. in my opinion

[Petite_Cherry]

Probably gradually because it would be harder to get over it

[Emmytexrex]

Gradually distance it make start wondering what's up this person it makes your mind go crazy like a guessing game

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Being cut off immediately is more painful initially, but it's more merciful in the long run. The slow death of gradual distancing is more crazy-making, I think.

[ProbablyClueless]

Being gradually distanced from is worse. It's drawn out... needlessly painful.

[MrDaveAPSI]

Cut off from all of it, immediately. Cause you're like, what, how am i supposed to survive, while im trying to get back on my feet

[DishLady]

Immediately — quick, clean, clear cut.

[MacDaddyRico]

I couldn't care less... it's their loss.

[strateguy632]

2nd is worse