Am I overthinking this?

[Treehugger572_55]

So I was on the phone with my best friend last night and she said in a rude tone that I stretched a top that I borrowed from her (I borrowed the top for 3 months, she didn’t care and only wore it about twice). She’s thin (not that it matters) and I’m not much bigger than her but it’s à noticeable difference and I feel like she’s always judging me for it and trying to be in the spotlight which I don’t mind most of the time but it’s draining. I love her but I don’t want to be treated or feel like this anymore, am I overthinking this?

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+1 y

Also the shirt wasn’t stretched at all and she borrows a ton my my clothes and if they come back damaged I don’t ever make her feel guilty or say anything about it bc I don’t want to make her feel bad

[Billlewis]

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It sounds like you may have had a brush with 'The 'Third Thing'

We know the world revolves around money

we know the world revolves around sex

What does that leave? Jealousy

[Treehugger572_55]

So you’re saying I’m jealous or she is? Honestly I’m not jealous I’m just drained because of how she treats me sometimes

[Billlewis]

If she is the antagonist, while you are her unwilling target, that makes her the green goblin.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Maybe a bit, I'd say don't borrow anymore clothing from her if she's one of those people with a big mouth tho, as for what she says, it shouldn't be something that should bother you but if it does, this would be the best solution.

[DishLady]

Yes, you're overthinking this. If you know that you're taller/slightly bigger than her AND you know she's twitchy about her stuff, then don't borrow any of her stuff.

[Treehugger572_55]

thanks for the reply I appreciate it , also I forgot to mention that she always picks at our visible differences just to upset me so I guess this is just a result of me getting fed up. Maybe I am overthinking x

[DishLady]

Do you think of her as a bully, then?

[Treehugger572_55]

Honestly sometimes but she is very off and on like that, I try to be a good friend nonetheless and I feel like this whole thing will make me sound jealous but I am truly happy for her but I just don’t want to be treated like this, you know?

[DishLady]

Yeah. Tbh, the one person who picked on me like that I dropped from my life, but for years I offered the benefit of the doubt, thinking that her behavior would improve, etc. And bc I tend to have way more guy friends than gal friends I really valued the fact that I had her in my life, but she was so toxic that when I reassessed my whole life with the plan of shaking off anything toxic I did have to let go of that friendship. (Sad, but I'm much happier now, living a way clearer and more peaceful life.)

[Fatoumamoud]

I would get annoyed if my bestie messed up my clothes. Outside this phone or clothes related, how she is with you as friend?

[Treehugger572_55]

Well I get annoyed when she messes up my clothes but I never mess up hers (like I said the shirt was exactly the same as when I first got it). As a friend she’s great with the exception of the times when she clearly wants to bring me down and make things about herself when they shouldn’t.

[Fatoumamoud]

I see. I don't think she is a bad person. Maybe you are a bit too sensitive. Next time you believe that she is treating you bad or brings you down then tell her about what you feel and let her explain her self. Maybe she isn't expressing herself well and make it sound careless then see if she changes it. If she stops doing or says what hurts then she is good friend to have around. If not then you need to slow down interacting with her.

[Danny_dan92]

Just take it as a lesson learned. Don’t borrow clothes from people. Wear your own clothes

[In_Trance]

yeah