Am I overthinking this?

[Anonymous]

I work in the hospital as a CNA. I'm 26 and I'm quiet and shy. I always am helping out my coworkers. But tonight a girl was listening to music, she's younger than me. I used to sit by myself at work because I'm anti social lol. I feel like I'm immature.. I don't know if it's just my anxiety talking. I wouldn't ever let someone talk down on me but she was listening to music and another nurse came back and she's like "I hope I'm not bugging Jessa (me) but I don't think she'd tell me if she was annoyed" but maybe she meant it as I was nice? And didn't want to hurt her feelings? I don't know if I'm thinking into it.
I want to be confident and assertive.. I just don't want them to feel like I'm pushed around a lot. Am I overthinking this? How can I be more assertive and confident? I don't think this makes me not confident? It didn't bother me she was listening to music.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Being assertive and confident is about establishing boundaries and not letting people violate them. I do think you're reading too much into this particular situation, but try to look people in the eyes, stand up straight and always self advocate. It doesn't mean be selfish, but don't let people use you or walk all over you. I'm still learning to be more assertive and confident too.

[Asker]

Oh, so I guess that for this particular instance, it wasn't a confidence or boundary issue then.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

She meant that she didn't want to disturb you but she thinks you're too polite or too weak to say anything so she doesn't want to hurt you. I don't see it as her taking a cheap shot.

[Asker]

So you don't think it's because due to lack of confidence or assertiveness?