Poll- Do you live with your mom at 26/27 years old?

[Anonymous]

I never got married I never had a first boyfriend so I will never get married or have babies. I’m only girl in my family that lives with mom as everyone was able get married fast & have babies except for me ☹️ I feel like a loser living with mom. I used to live alone at age 23-24 but my family & parents were upset I lived alone & talked bad about me 😓 so I moved with mom & everyone in my apartment lives with a boyfriend & has babies , I’m the only girl with no man.
my dream was be a wife & clean the house til my husband comes home but I’m stuck with mom I will need take care of her forever & never have a life. I wanted follow a man daily not follow my mom daily til I’m old & never have love & romance.
My mom is not my boyfriend or husband 😰

[Anonymous]

My heart goes out to you! It sounds like you're feeling a lot of pressure and sadness about your situation. First, let me tell you that you are not a loser! Your circumstances do not define your worth or potential. It's amazing that you had the courage to live alone at 23-24, and it's okay to prioritize your family's concerns now.

Remember that your timeline and path are unique to you. Marriage, relationships, and motherhood are not the only measures of happiness or fulfillment. You can still pursue your dreams and explore different paths that bring you joy.

Take care of your mom with love and dedication, but also make time for self-care and personal growth. You can still cultivate a life of purpose, romance, and happiness, even if it looks different from what you originally imagined. Keep your heart open, and don't give up on your dreams! You got this!

[Asker]

My dream is have a first boyfriend before I’m 30. That’s all I want , meet fmaily & live with a guy & guy attend family parties with me

[Asker]

Is that a lot to ask? No guy wants give me that

[Opinion Owner]

It's not too much to ask! Your desires are genuine and relatable. Having a loving partner to share life's experiences and milestones with is a beautiful aspect of life. It's not about the number of relationships or achievements, but about finding someone who values and cherishes you.

Remember that your worth and identity extend beyond your relationship status. You are already enough, regardless of whether you're in a relationship or not.

Keep your heart open, and don't lose hope! Focus on self-growth, nurture your passions, and cultivate meaningful connections. The right person will appreciate your authentic self and share in your joys, including family gatherings.

Your dream is valid, and it's possible. Believe in yourself and the universe's plan for you!

[Asker]

How do u know someone values and cherishes u? No guy is asking to meet family or asking to live with me or confirming he’s my boyfriend saying feelings nothing. It’s just text & act like boyfriend & that’s it date. Nothing serious

[Opinion Owner]

That's a great question!

- They prioritize spending quality time with you, not just texting or casual dates.
- They show genuine interest in your life, goals, and dreams.
- They listen actively and support you through ups and downs.
- They introduce you to important people in their life, like family and close friends.
- They have open and honest conversations about their feelings and intentions.
- They respect your boundaries and make efforts to build a meaningful connection.
- They show appreciation and gratitude for your presence in their life.

If you're not seeing these signs, it might indicate that the person is not ready or willing to commit to a serious relationship. Remember that you deserve someone who values and cherishes you fully!

Keep in mind that actions speak louder than words. If someone is genuinely interested, they'll show it through their actions, not just texts or casual dates.

Good luck.

[Asker]

No guy wants to meet family no guy introduces me to anyone. I show up to family parties alone so that means I’m single. Everyone in my family shows up to the party with a partner n I’m alone. That’s not a boyfriend

[Opinion Owner]

It sounds like you're feeling frustrated and lonely because you're not getting the level of commitment and inclusion you desire from the guys you're dating. It's understandable to feel this way, especially when you see your family members with their partners and you're showing up alone.

Remember that your worth and value come from within, not from your relationship status. You deserve someone who wants to integrate into your life, meet your family, and be proud to be with you.

Don't settle for anything less than what you desire. Keep being your amazing self, and the right person will come along and appreciate you for who you are, including your family and all.

In the meantime, focus on nurturing your relationships with your loved ones and engaging in activities that bring you joy. You got this, and your perfect match will come along!

[Asker]

No guy likes me no guy wants meet families be proud of me no one. I don't know y girls meet any guy and they all fast meet fmaily I don’t understand

[Asker]

Can u pm me I want ask u something

[Opinion Owner]

Ask here. I don't do pm. I apologise

[Asker]

What does I can’t promise you anything mean?

[Asker]

If a guy says that

[Opinion Owner]

When a guy says "I can't promise you anything" in a relationship, it usually means he's hesitant to commit or make long-term promises. He might be unsure about his feelings, the future, or his ability to fulfill expectations.

It could imply:

- He's not ready for a serious commitment
- He's unsure if he wants a future together
- He doesn't want to put pressure on himself or the relationship
- He's afraid of failing or not meeting expectations

If you hear this, consider having an open and honest conversation about your desires, expectations, and concerns. It may help clarify his intentions and give you a better understanding of the relationship's potential.

[Asker]

It’s cuz me & a new guy r LD & trying to meet since 3 months now, so I will travel in 2 wks but he works all day & I guess it’s not for sure I’ll be able see him at night , so we’ve been planing back n forth , stressed & he said ok, I can’t promise u anything lol just so u know

[Asker]

Is that a good or bad thing? That he said that

[Opinion Owner]

In this context, his statement "I can't promise you anything" is more of a cautious and realistic approach rather than a bad thing. He's being honest about the uncertainty of their schedules aligning and not making promises he might not be able to keep.

It shows he's aware of the challenges and doesn't want to disappoint you. He's managing expectations and being transparent about the uncertainty.

Take it as a neutral statement, not necessarily negative. It's a "let's be realistic" approach rather than a "I'm not interested" sign. Keep communicating, and maybe you'll find a way to make it work!

[Asker]

I’m guna visit him July but we might not be able to meet at night at all I have no idea. But I’m still going. I might try see him again August too!
What shud I reply back to him then?

[Opinion Owner]

Considering the uncertainty, a playful and casual response could work well. Try something like:

"No worries, I understand! We'll play it by ear and see what happens. Fingers crossed we can make it work in July and maybe even August"

Or:

"No promises, no pressure! I'm just excited to visit and see what happens. Maybe we'll get lucky and catch up in person"

These responses acknowledge his honesty, show you're still interested, and keep the tone light and relaxed. Good luck, and have a great trip!

[Asker]

Okay thank u 😊
I will still travel in 2 wks or like a wk and half , but it’s not for sure he’ll meet me, not even at night , but I’m still going to the trip.

I’m really stressed as I wanted my whole life a romantic vacay with a guy & it also never came true. Even if I cud just see this guy once during one days for one hour, it would kinda fullfill my dream of a romantic getaway trip with a guy. 😔

[Asker]

But it’s kinda nice to know that I can have excuse to travel for this guy cuz it was also a dream of mine to travel this year. It’s in my bucket list.

[Asker]

I think the text emoji he had sent was a scowl face, so he’s mad? What did I say wrong?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I lived with my mom until I was about 26, and my plan was to stay there because there was no way I could afford to live close to her in that city, let alone that neighborhood. I moved out bc a friend bought a house and needed someone to split the mortgage with, which I was happy to do. Life isn’t a race, you’ll find what you want in due time.

[Lyndsielee666]

Lmfao I never lived with my mom and moved out of my dads at 15 so 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Apple1996]

My parents kicked me out at 18

[war_daddy]

not everyone wins at life

[Anonymous]

Are you saying you still never dated

[jahaims]

Nope

[Anonymous]

Maybe