What do I do about toxic family members?

[Vlonedre]

I got love for my family but they act like they are perfect and have never made mistakes in their life. I've grown as a person but the seem to remind me of the person I use to be they always bring up the past. For instance my uncle like to comment on what happened between my childs mother and I. He also like to comment on me smoking weed or the conversations I have with people that have nothing to do with him but he's an alcoholic. My father use to beat on my mother and yet I've forgiven for what happened between them when I was a little kid but yet he still throws my past up in my face. I also noticed that they like to gang up on me they think that me explaining my side of the situation I'm always wrong and what the other family members do are right.

[rosemilk]

you slowly, but ultimately, get farther from them (in terms of communication, etc. could even go as far as moving). less contact, less telling them about anything in your life. if you haven't already communicated to them why you're slowly pulling away, do so. just a warning, they will not listen and it could also start a fight. so do so at your own risk

do not react to the toxic behavior when it presents itself. stay calm. just let it go when it arrives so this situation doesn't blow up more. set boundaries and stick with them. it protects your mental health

[Anonymous]

you're 28. Cut them off.

[In_Trance]

Block them