How to deal with toxic family members?

Anonymous
So earlier today , my grandma demanded that I take out a ham I bought for personal use so it could be cook for Thanksgiving when I didn’t buy it for the holidays. She is very overbearing and controlling. When I explained to her that this was a ham for canning in mason jars or too cook for my kids for Thanksgiving she got extremely upset and called me selfish. I told her I would help her out with canned goods since food is going up , but she assumed that I was cooking the ham for the house for the holidays for others to eat. She is ungrateful and despite I was helping her with canned goods to restock her pantry she told me any money that I give her would go on her Thanksgiving preparing and she wouldn’t spend it on canned goods and other things for the house. She boasted about how she had help for Thanksgiving and the money to finishing preparing ( Trying to use me ) ..

Me and my children will eat differently from the house and her cooking which my children don’t like. We do it every year.. he cooking is for other family members and her fo eat off of.
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I don’t know why she made an argument off a personal item for me and my children
How to deal with toxic family members?
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