Is my friend a fake friend or secret frenemy?

[Anonymous]

I have been friends with this girl for two years. We don’t meet up that often but along the way I’ve gotten the impression she is not really a true friend or gossips about me behind my back and I don’t fully trust her.

- When I upload instagram stories, for example I might upload 3/4 stories on one day and she will often view stories 1 and 2 and then react to them in a supportive way, but then click off them as if she doesn’t want to view the rest. I have noticed over the years she will do this often

- another time I went to the pub with her and she abandoned me on my own at a time in my life when I felt most vulnerable. I was in a toxic relationship and confiding to her about it and I’d had a few drinks so by this point I felt vulnerable because I was telling her some quite intimidate details about my relationship and opening up to her and then all of a sudden she told me that she had to go and abandoned me on my own in a pub and I had to walk home on my own

- I am in a friendship group it’s me and two other girls. When we are all together I’ve noticed she will hype up the other girl and comment on her appearance and then say to me “don’t you think Emily looks amazing this evening” but will completely ignore me and not say one thing complimentary

- one time I met up with her for drinks, and she told me that she had matched with this guy on an online dating site and this guy said that he had matched with a girl who had the same name as me and who lived in my area and then got all weird and said I shouldn’t date him because he was already dating this girl called Gemma and that I shouldn’t waste time with him. I had no idea who this guy was and I never matched with him on a dating site

- she often meets up with the other girl in secret without telling me (I once caught them together in a coffee shop) and she acted shady when she got caught yet whenever I ask to meet up she seems to make an excuse that she is busy

Is this friend a real friend or fake?

[ManOnFire]

Yes, she is definitely a fake friend.100%. And I have a hunch that it's because she's jealous of you. Sorry my answer is long, but bear with me lol.

You said she used to watch your IG stories but then stop after a few. I have a few friends and relatives who do that too. The relatives do it because they want to send some kind of message that they're not interested in seeing what I'm doing, or if they don't see me with somebody then my stories aren't worth watching. Some of the friends do it out of jealousy, especially the female ones. Your friend might only react positively to a few of your stories just to keep you believing that she's a friend, just to keep a connection even though she doesn't mean it.

The reason I think she's jealous is because she left you hanging at the bar that time when you really needed the support about your ex. Maybe she never even had a relationship before and was upset that you did, or if you showed her pictures of the guy maybe she was jealous and felt like she couldn't get a guy like that or something. But for her to just ditch on you then and there I think is jealousy. When it comes to dating, it is super common for women to be jealous/envious of the other and their relationships.

Also how she only tries to praise you guys' other friend when you're all out together and ignoring only you. She's doing that to spite you. She's hoping it will make you feel bad about yourself. And then telling you out of nowhere about some guy she met on a dating app who knew a girl with your name and all that nonsense. She was hoping it was going to bother you or she just wanted to have a reason to say she met somebody too.

And yes I think she is gossiping about you or at least talking shit about you to your other friend. Conclusion?: she is a definite snake.

[Anonymous]

Fake friend