How to move past sibling favouritism?

[Anonymous]

I mean no ill intentions towards my brother, who is the youngest. He is a great brother to me, however my parents treat him a lot better than me in terms of encouragement and support. It might sound childish but I do harbour a lot of resent towards them based on how they treat me in comparison. For instance, during my weight loss journey I went running at 4am beating my night owl pattern and lost 20kgs. My parents did really say much and say "Oh ok". When it comes to my brother they always cheer and say "Well done, great job. Im so impressed!" and hi five him. In addition, I always get spoken over the top of in any conversation, he does not. They ask him more questions about his life, not mine. They do more things for him but I have to do everything myself, if I do ask their attitude seems like I am being a nuisance or a hassle. He also gets breakfast and dinner made for him. I do not. We both pay the same rent, I pay for my own food but he does not.

Its all minor things but they tally up as being unfavourable. Im not sure how to move past this. I am keeping to myself most of the time.

[ohsheeT]

Let's play pretend.. . You and your brother are going to the Olympics you're in the same sport... I'm your coach... We get there a week early so we can practice whatever our sport is I know you I know how to determine you are I know how bad to the bone you are I know when you want something you're going to go get it I know that you're smart intelligent I don't have to worry about you too much but your brother oh my gosh he's a mess he needs coaching he needs encouragement he needs this he needs that. I want you both to do well but I know you got this so I got a pep talk your brother all the time... I don't mean to kind of push you to the side and believe in you and I know you need encouragement too but down deep in your heart I know that you're going to do well I know you're going to do great your brother on the other hand I'm at my weekend I don't know what to do I have to talk to him every 5 minutes every I just have to keep this motivation going you on the other hand not even you're the queen of this event like I said I apologize that I don't pat you on the back or love you or you know tell you what a good job you're doing I'm just so focused on your brother because he's just quite not like you you have it all going for you and we got to put a lot of work into this one I know you're going to do well and when you do I will slap your ass give you a high five take you to McDonald's whatever LOL


That's what I kind of feel in a situation like this now go out and prove it to yourself forget everybody else encourage yourself whatever you're not getting and whatever you want do it to yourself you'll be proud that you did and they will see your parents will see a major change in you and they will kind of swing over to your side too but don't worry about who gets more love than you do when you get to where you want to be you're going to get all the love and you can handle

[strateguy632]

just admit to yourself that you donot need their encouragement anyway.