I am friends with people my friend hates/broke off with, am I in the wrong?

[Anonymous]

so my friend and i have been on and off friends for about 10 years, i dont consider her my best friend anymore (she kind of ruined that 9 years ago, when she stole off me and slept with guys i was in a relationship with during high school). we have spoken on and off since then, as our friendship really never recovered since then, i have been really nice and understanding with her throughout us being friends. during the time we would hang out, she would get with a different guy every week, some of them i met and had on my socials, i didn't think anything of it. Since most of them moved on from her and got married, had kids and girlfriends, etc. i dont speak to them, just have them on facebook, as they haven't done anything wrong by me. i dont go out of my way to contact them or hang out with them. since i have a partner and have been with him for 4 years.

my friend has only just realized that i have 2 of her exs on facebook, it wasn't something i generally thought about nor thought about unfriending. since i dont talk to them nor tell them what she's she been up too etc. she ended up blocking me on everything and when i asked did i do something wrong, she acted stupid, the only way i knew was both her and her partner (atm) deleted/blocked me on everything.

then she was annoyed i was also friends with a girl she had a fall out with, all these people haven't done anything wrong by me, since its my friend that dumped them all and got off on bad terms with them. maybe im delusional, but i really feel like I've generally done nothing wrong to her or anyone. since i only talk to the girl she had a falling out with (me and her only talk about crafts). am i in the wrong and what should i do? my mom suggests i should cut this friend off, as she has been dead weight for a while and i should of done it when she stole my stuff. i know i should of, but i didn't have any friends and just kept all this around me for so long

[DishLady]

Depends on what the people involved are disagreeing about. For example, one of my bff tried to get me fired out of spite and while we parted ways when it was my turn to sell her out I actually took the high road and defended her, allowing her to keep her job for an extra year while she regrouped. To this day, though, she tells some odd alternate version of the story to folks... one of whom is a relative of mine.

I got pissed at my relative for staying in touch rather than showing family loyalty, but now I don't really speak to either one of them because it's clear that they're cut from the same cloth.

So are you in the wrong? You can't be loyal to two opposing teams. You need to pick one at some point or walk away from both.

[Asker]

at this point im just not sure what to do, since i really use facebook just to promote my crafts for selling, she knows i hardly speak to anyone on there or post on there (unless of course its business related) and i dont really pay attention to who were/are my friends on there. the girl i mentioned above, i am making something for her (since it was a commission), but she has always been respectful to me. i am worried that if i make the decision to cut them all off and go back to this girl/the friend, she will treat me how she always has, borrowing money without paying me back, stealing my personal belongings and trauma dumping on me, then treating me poorly me if i dont respond right away or just removing them all stay friends with the girl i am doing craft for. its kind of a weird place to be in, since i haven't really been in this situation, i have a few girl friends that are friends with my exs, but I've never gone out of my way to hit them up and tell them to pick me or them, i hang out with the girls time to time. but never mention my exs to them or ask for the latest about them. i dont really care, they moved on and so have i and i hold no hard feelings towards my girl friends that keep them on socials :/