Can a man and a woman be friends?

Question

I don't think it's right, what if the other person has feelings for me and becomes a friend for that reason?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Men who are gay, asexual, or men who are already in a happy, healthy relationship CAN be "just friends" with women, yes - but they usually aren't.

Men who are straight and single and have typical sex drives largely CANNOT be "just friends" with women who they find even a bit attractive. And men generally don't choose to become friends with women they don't find attractive. This is not a failing of women - most women CAN be "just friends" - it's MEN who are largely incapable.

The problem is that most women who THINK they have "male friends" simply don't realize that their "friend" wants to fuck them, or in some cases date them - but nearly all of them do. Just because the girl is oblivious doesn't mean it's not true - but let's be honest, most women know it's true.

Don't believe me? Here's a simple test - one that's been done live on camera dozens of times and has a 100% result rate: call your male "friend," tell him that you're really lonely and really horny, and ask him if he wants to come over and take care of your needs. If he was "just a friend", he would refuse - but you know goddamn well your "friend" is going to jump in his car and break the speed limit getting to your house. Are there RARE exceptions? Sure - but they're REALLY rare.

The other way to test for this is to have a serious conversation with the guy, and assure him that you want to make it clear that you will NEVER, EVER have sex with him. He's your "friend" because he's holding out hope that ONE DAY the two of you can get together. Many guys will keep holding out hope even if you get into a relationship with another guy - and some will stick around for YEARS hoping. But once you extinguish all hope, 99.99999% of the time, that "friend" is going to fade out of your life, because what was keeping him around was the HOPE that one day you'd get together.

It doesn't make me happy or proud to tell you this, but it's still the TRUTH, and you should know the truth and you should be making decisions with this truth in mind. It would be either naïve or delusional not to.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

It depends on the man as well as the woman, yes sometimes feelings develop it’s pretty normal but I will say that relationships that flourish from friendships are much stronger especially because you’ve built a connection on something more then sex as well as know each other for who you genuinely are, not just a perfect picture that you made in your head.

It does suck when one person has developed feelings while the other person hasn’t it hurts. But you eventually move on and find someone whose right for you. I will never understand why people want quantity over quality people. Some people just feed their egos by getting as much attention from the opposite sex as possible rather then focusing on quality of person.

GOLDFISH_smile · Accepted Answer

Yes. There is a chance of fake friends who just want something from u, but there's always chance of that even with friends with other women. So that's not a reason that you can't ever be friends with a man.

It is reason to maybe be more careful when making friends with men, but hopefully once you are friends you have made boundaries clear & the guys who don't actually want to be friends will lose interest and fuck off.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

They can if the man isn't sexually interested or attracted. But most people pick friends who they find attractive or at least I do 97% of the time. Though I have never dated or anything with a friend, since I assume they aren't interested lol

Anonymous · Answer

It depends entirely on the circumstance. For example I have two female friends whom I have known since kindergarten. They're married, with kids. Good people.

I'm also friends with one ex, and it's because we were friends for years before we dated, and we dated for like two weeks, and we called it quits because we worked better as friends.

But you're right. A lot of the time a man will have feelings for a woman, and she will friend zone him.

My wife lost most of her male friends because I challenged her to offer her "male friends" sex, and those that didn't turn her down she was to block them. Because if a male friend you offer sex doesn't turn you down, he is not your real friend.

TheLovelyWoman · Answer

Yes I believe men and women can be friend. My husband didn’t so. My husband thinks my guy friends are waiting for an opportunity to bang me.

Anonymous · Answer

Of course.

What happens? Then the friendship ends.

So don't cross that line aneverything will most likely be fine.

This is a common misconception with women. You think guys approach any and everything in a skirt (some do. Don't get me wrong. But it's certainly NOT the norm). Guys approach women that send him a signal that she's interested in ELEVATING the friendship. The REALITY is we have an epidemic of women today that see men as their playthings. And not enough men that will tell the to f*** off when they act this way.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Why is this question asked more than "Does size matter?"

YES they can be friends!

YES sometimes one gets the feels!

YES that person then needs to decide to risk the friendship or not!

YES SOs who get jealous of them having opposite gender friends are insecure & controlling!

YES I think that about covers it.

Ladsin2 · Answer

Nope. Women can be friends with men, and I believe they mean it. Men can't be friends with women.

Lliam · Answer

Yes. I've had female friends who were just friends. We didn't go on dates or do things exclusively together, but we were still good friends.

DextroShade · Answer

MEN ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS! The only reason we talk to you is because we want to smash.

menina · Answer

Of course they can, even if they're both heterosexual. When I was in high school my best friend was a guy and we never had feelings for each other.

I never understood why most people think that a man and a woman can't be friends.

Marathonmama · Answer

Of course!!! I’m happily married I just let guys know so they don’t try to make it weird/sexual

Berethor · Answer

If he not attracted to you it easy, though men prefer to be friends with attractive women.

art84 · Answer

Yes, I used to attend adult daycare and was friends with women who were older than me. I never had feelings for any of them so it wasn't a problem.

Radiate143 · Answer

Women can be friends with men. Men are just waiting for their shot.

rienna888 · Answer

I think so but there’s always gonna be attraction from one side. All of my male friends wanted more

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, a man and woman can be friends.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Yes but it’s difficult. They have get over temptation

AnnaCT · Answer

Yes, as long as the man doesn’t try to keep getting into her pants. It’s that easy,

woahhh152 · Answer

It's possible as long as you have strong boundaries

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

You are full of what ifs. How about you think what if they're not each other's type? Why do you think there are a lot of relationships that don't work out?

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah they can buut very rary, love your lipstick by the way

morganherrel · Answer

100%. My best male friend and one female friend are each other's best friends. ZERO chance of romance between them. They are both attractive people in my opinion.

MrGSpotHer · Answer

Yes that can happen but I do get along with women more than men though

Anonymous · Answer

It is harder with an ex or someone u are back with when you are not sure of anything anymore. I can tell u that much.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

100 FUCKING PERCENT NO. I WOULDN'T EVEN CONSIDER IT.

Sharkstealth · Answer

I have had female friends in the past. Many actually.

OtterMan68 · Answer

yes, how many times will this be asked

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Yes, but not necessarily not attracted to each other. You can’t overcome biology.

Simslover92 · Answer

Nope and yet here I am trying it out like a dummy.

Nirmroth · Answer

You can and I am the living example for that

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Yes. I don't want to fuck everyone in sight.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes. It's called maturity.

NathanDavis · Answer

if they're both into the friendship, yes...

RebelinSteel · Answer

Yes guys n girls can be friends.

chrissykerdock · Answer

depends on what's too far or much

noohair · Answer

What if'ers ruin the world.

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

Yes but communication is key

MittParekh15 · Answer

Nopes, usually one of them develop a feelings

Dongie · Answer

Do you not care for the feelings of a friend?

Anonymous · Answer

Only if there is no mutual attraction.

Jennz6 · Answer

Nope

elaphe · Answer

Some of my best friends are female.

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

That happens all the time.

_Senorita_ · Answer

Never

In_Trance · Answer

Never

slatyb · Answer

Yes they can.

thearchjoker · Answer

yes.

soe11 · Answer

Yes ofcourse

zombiewoof · Answer

Of course

TheCaller · Answer

Yes of course

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