My friend of 6 months hurt me! What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy on a video game
He got a girlfriend & 2 kids
We played together daily sometimes & with other friends
I added him and his friend on Instagram at the same time
This guy started texting me
He was sweet and kind and i knew he liked me but i liked him as a friend
He wanted me to talk... u know tell him about my life and issues
I told him i was abandoned as a kid (long story) That why i have intamicy problems and i don't care to date
He told me a lot of things about him his life his past his kids.. his girlfriend (he actually talked about her in a bad way) she left him once coz he was clingy and she slept with another guy, she had and idea of threesome with another woman (she is bisexual) they live together with their kids for 15 years and doesn't wanna marry her coz he said wedding is expensive, he got money tho and making more money! He is an oil rig worker.
I stopped talking the him or text for 3 Weeks
Then he text 1st ( he did that a lot actually)
he was nice and always there when i needed him!
I didn't text for another 3 weeks
We did talk daily sometimes but i don't like getting closer to someone i feel overwhelmed
But i also felt peace & safe with him as a friend and i told him that
He was good never said anything inappropriate Cuz he has a girlfriend
One day i called his Instagram by mistake
Kinda early too like 6 a. m
Then his girlfriend saw the missed call (she was searching his phone)
So after that he removed me from the game and Instagram
I texted him from another account asking what happened so he told me
He was kind still but told me never text him or talk to him again because of his girlfriend saying emotional connections is not good
I tried the to be understanding
Then i started getting sick and cry and stuff
I don't know i guess i didn't see that coming
And i really wanted him as a friend
I was hurt coz i told him about my past and abandonment issues!
Is he coming back?

Updates

1 y

I m a woman by the way i didn't do my profile right

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah, girl I'm really sorry you got hurt like that. I know you really valued him as a friend, so it's completely normal to feel sad and upset over losing that connection.

From the sounds of it though, keeping contact probably isn't the healthiest idea long term. His relationship clearly wasn't too secure if his girl was that threatened by a friendly call. And it's not fair for him to dip out suddenly like that without any explanation after you opened up emotionally.

The best thing is to start healing and moving on. Lean on your other close friends for support during this. Block him on everything so you're not tempted to reach back out. Focus on yourself and doing things that make YOU feel good and empowered again like working out or a hobby.

I know it hurts now, but you seem like a really caring person who deserves someone willing to be there for you fully, without any confusion or drama. In time you'll see this was just making room for better friends to come into your life. You've got this girl - keep your head high!