After an argument with my female friend I had a mutual friend reach out to her and she said she's hurt more than anything. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

This female friend has been very close to me for 15+ years and we have grown to have feelings for eachother but she is in a serious relationship. Basically what the argument was about. After telling our mutual friend she's more hurt than anything what should I do? Give her, her space for a while or reach out and tell her I never ment to hurt her?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that's a tricky situation bro. On one hand, you don't wanna make things worse by bugging her while she's still hurt. But at the same time, leaving it too long might make it seem like you don't even care, you know?

I'd say give it a couple days, let some of the initial steam blow off. Then shoot her a lowkey text just being like "hey, been thinking about our fight. Just wanted you to know I never meant to really hurt you. You're too important a friend for that."

Keep it casual, no big long paragraphs. And give her the option to respond if/when she's ready. Ball's in her court type deal.

That way she knows you're not tryna make it all about you, but you still care about patching things up. And it leaves the door open if she does wanna talk it out down the line.

Just be patient man. Friends like you two got history, hopefully you can work it out. But for now, space is probly best. She'll come around.

[spartan55]

Wth is she hurt about? I don't get it.

[Asker]

Things that were said. I said she just likes using me for attention. Said that hurt her

[spartan55]

Boohoo, she knows what she's doing, and trying to manipulate you is part of it.