What to do when my girlfriend insults me and hurts my feelings?

[Alxve]

So we have been fighting over an small matter which usually was fixed. But she said something in anger which hurted my feelings for her. She said "Fuck you" and "I hate you" so which is very hurtful to hear. I even cried because Im also an human she only cares about herself only. She won't even see or comeback if I have been hurt by her words. But after like 2 days she gonna come up with an sorry. I dont what to say. I dont want to breakup. Is there any motivation for me because I have no one by my side Im fighting all alone and healing by myself. I dont know what to do.

Thank you for all the supportive opinions by the way

[_Maya_]

I know that you don't want to break up but that is really the best solution. You can try and talk to her and explain how hurtful those things are if you haven't already but I am not so sure that is going to do much. She just sounds like a toxic person and unlikely to change if this is a habit of her's. Do you really want to be with someone that says those sorta things to you? I understand you feel alone in this but the sooner you get out of it the quicker you can start that healing process.

[Alxve]

I mean she even told me that she has anger issues and she gets angry quickly or whatever. Even though I have an calm perspective. But she never minds her words ever. Its hard for me to do an breakup because I love her so much but I dont know. It would hurt even more to see her in someone else's hands.

[_Maya_]

I understand it is difficult but you have a choice. You can either deal with it as part of your relationship or break up. There really is no alternative unless she changes herself. In my experience people can change but it is usually temporary.

[Alxve]

Well thank you for those opinion by the way. I will surely think of something.

[_Maya_]

You're welcome and I hope whatever happens you can find some peace in all of it. Best of luck to you.

[Alxve]

Actually the fact is that Im very young in dating and relationships. I dont know some stuff so I take help from this site for an great decision. But thank you again for that motivation.

[_Maya_]

No problem at all. Happy to help anyway I can. 🙂

[LazerBean]

Dump her. People like that are unfit for relationships and will always fail in them.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

If she can't understand that her words are extremely hurtful as an adult, the situation won't ever improve. Take what you have learned from this, and make sure that you don't treat your next significant other the way she treats you. Learn the lessons and become stronger.

[boggboss]

I wouldn't be in a relationship with a partner that was comftble treating me like shit

[jahaims]

She is emulating her environment. You guys are still young. She hasn't matured enough to see that for herself. She should be in therapy.

[Alxve]

Yeah I do agree with you. She is very childish and never wanna change her anger issues. Even though I dont even take them very seriously her words but still hurts me.

[jahaims]

You're gonna see trauma manifested like this throughout your dating life. You just have to decide if she is special enough to help through trauma or if you would rather have some with less baggage.

[In_Trance]

you put up with it, or you move on