What makes you stop talking to a friend after 1 to 2 years of knowing them?

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I made good friends in my masters program or I thought I did. After a big end of program trip a few people in my group of friends stopped talking to me and then 7 months later 2 more people stopped talking to me and now the final few that I was friends with stopped talking to me and I mean not answering my calls and messages some of whom I haven't spoken to in a while and some I was close to. When they do answer and I've asked for what happened and why they give vague answers about how they are going through personal stuff and life is busy yet I see them on social media meeting up with other people from our class. What gives? I am nervous about keeping in touch with even my acquaintances from my class now and don't want to meet with anyone else for this fear that if 10-12 people did this to me (mostly girls) the rest of the class will too. We graduated 2 years ago by the way and there were only 45 people in the entire class.

I feel so rejected and sad. Why did this happen to me? I went into this degree hoping to make life long friends and now I don't have any from there.

YevgenyMikhail · Answer

That's after school shit happens. If you're not starting a business or helping them with money in anyway then they are going to move on with their lives. You should have learned that in high school all those friends you think that are going to be there forever are not there forever as soon as you graduate everyone is going to move on.

The only reason they are probably communicating and keeping in touch is so they can network and help each other get jobs at a company they are working for. If you're not helping them out with a job or business they don't have any reason to talk to you or spend time. They are adults they want money and to take care of their families.

I get that it sucks, but that is what happens stop taking personally. You might only have a few friends, but at least you got something.

Anonymous · Answer

Those girls in that class just weren’t really your friends. I know it sucks but it’s a tale as old as time. Being cool with people during school or work, then after graduating or leaving the job, you rarely ever hear from them, if at all. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make new friends and I don't know maybe you just keep them at arms length.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Nothing. If I make a real friend, they stay friends for life, and that includes ex-boyfriends.

What makes you stop talking to a friend after 1 to 2 years of knowing them?

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