What is the ideal age for becoming a parent?

[Itsmeirem]

Do you think there's an ideal age for becoming a parent? Why or why not?

[OlderAndWiser]

Since most marriages of young people lead to children, you should consider the age at which you want to begin your family. For most couples, there is an ideal age range for having children. First, how many children do you want to have? If you want two or more children, that means that your financial obligations will be stretched out over a longer period of time. Maybe you have the idea of retiring at age 55 and spending time on the beach in Tahiti but that won’t happen if you are 55 and your youngest child is still a junior in high school.

Second, how far apart do you want to have your children? Some people feel that a three year gap between kids is the absolute worst circumstance; the kids are far enough apart that the older one does not want to hang out with the younger one while the younger one wants to tag along whenever the older one does anything. Have kids one or two years apart and you may have two or even three kids in college at the same time; what a burden! Have kids further apart and you will be even older when the last one is finally independent.

Third, you need to be old enough to handle the responsibilities of being a parent. Getting up with a fussy baby at 1 AM and again at 3 AM and again at 4 AM can drive you crazy. Do you have the patience to handle that? Most people develop that patience as they age. Many have that patience when they are quite young but some don’t develop it until they are almost 30 and some never develop the patience necessary for raising children.

Fourth, think about the age issue from your child’s perspective. Suppose you want to wait and have your first child at age 35. You will be close to 60 by the time that child completes college. If you have more than one child, you may be close to 70 when that child finishes college. How does that comport with your plans for soaking up the sun on the beach in Tahiti? More importantly, how will your child feel about having a parent who is so much older that their friends’ parents? As kids get older and get rebellious, they sometimes act embarrassed about being around their parents; how do you think that works when mom is 68 and dad is 71? Or even worse, what if you don’t live that long and your child is only 17 when they suddenly don’t have a mother? Of course you don't want to consider the prospect that you will ever die but, if you are considering having children, you need to have the maturity to contemplate such somber topics.

[HawkPerception]

I wouldn't say there's a specific number, but basically any time from around age 20 to 35 as a woman and a little and anytime from 20 to 45 as a man.

Those are just ballpark numbers and I'm sure there are many people that fall outside of those numbers that are great parents too. Point I'm getting across is it doesn't really matter too much.

As long as you're in a loving relationship, you're financially ready, and you're mature enough to raise kids, and you are at an age you can still give birth, any time is a good time.

[AviatorTom]

There is no ideal age, at least not a number. Some people aren't cut out to be parents... ever. Others can be good parents, but shouldn't become parents until they are emotionally and financially stable enough to raise a child. That's not a specific age, it varies depending on the individua. Some people are "ready" at 18, others in their 20s or '30s.

[Apple1996]

There is never a ideal age to have kids. As a parent myself I think it's silly when people set up goals like they wanna have good health or be financially stable before having kids because that kind of stuff can change so fast. You could get cancer or lose your job tomorrow. Like why wait around for something you want when you could just do it today?

[Kelley1]

Biologically, for females, the Ideal age is 16 to 17 and 20 to 21 for males. However, in our modern society, that is no longer practical. Therefore, in our advanced society, provided the husband has sufficient income, the ideal age for a female is 19 to 22 and 23 to 25 for males.

[The_Confusion]

The biology you described opposes that of farm breeding ideals, which you mentioned in your previous posts, "superior genetics" is a big deal there and human breeding can learn from them.

In order to avoid retardation of mother and offspring, a doe is kept celibate until 1.5 years. Obviously if mommy hasn't reached full grown size then the size of the kiddie is physically restricted. The nutritional and caloric intake of those who haven't reached full size isn't as high as that of a larger female. Coincides with how overpopulated countries have short and dumb people. And "normal hormone level charts" show that women 12-17 years should have testosterone 10x higher than the lower limit of a normal 20 year old, with 18-19 being in-between. In other words the hormones are unstable until 20, and flatline from there on. If I had to guess, then the ideal time to breed women is when their hormones are stable i. e. they are not "still in development".



As you also know, men's testosterone levels peak at 14-19 years, and already start to decline at 20, all while you say that men produce best offspring at 21? Maybe the teen surge of horny is a developmental side effect, and not a signal that it's time to breed? For both genders? Do you really think 16 year old women have significantly better eggs than 21 year olds?

While men produce larger coom quantity with higher survival rate at 20 than at 16, it doesn't make a difference unless you wish to impregnate multiple women at once. Only 1 swimmer can reach the egg, all the others should die regardless of their quantity.

So maybe your numbers are flipped? Male coom is ready at 16 and females have to reach maximum size in order to provide maximum nutrition, maximum thermostat function and biggest room to rent for 9 months, with hormones flatlining indicating that sexual "development" is finished, at 20 years of age.

[The_Confusion]

I might be incorrect about the overpopulated countries coinciding with shortness and stupidity and openly fucking children. One of these is not proportional.

The link between shortness and low iq is really strong, and though some of them have the strictest age of consent rules, these places have high crime rates invalidating the rules. Besides, the laws in the first place could mean that the children are not allowed to say "no".

Expecting linear overpopulation in countries that fuck children is illogical because at some point when they're born defective, they just start to die off.

[Kelley1]

@The_Confusion I don't know. I have never seen any studies showing that children born to women in their twenties are superior and more intelligent than children born to teens. I do know that Religious scholars believe the Virgin Mary was 14 when she gave birth; a common age at that time. Shakespeare's Juliet was two weeks shy of 14 when her parents arranged for her to be married and, at the time people didn't think she was too young. The Little Mermaid was 16 and 1837, 16 was a common age to marry. Moreover, I am certain that for the prior 3 million years of the Stone Age women mated in their teens. Furthermore, during that 3 million years humans continued to get taller with bigger brains. Therefore, it is not like humans regress when teens have children.

[Bilboes]

After reaching a stable financial status and mental maturity.. It is difficult to specify a specific age, but 25-30 is generally appropriate.

[TheSpaceGnome]

It would depend on the ethnicity of the person and the country they are in.
Different racial mixes develop at different rates, and to different extents, and local cultures greatly effect whether or not your success as a parent (both economically and educationally) is likely, as well as the average lifespan in that area.

[IslaTheWitch]

you and your partner have to be ready... emotionally and financially...

[RingOfFire]

I'd say late twenties. Both sexes are at the right place about then. It's not ideal in every respect, older would be better. But for women that's about as close as you want to get to the loss of fertility age. Guys still have a long way to go in terms of wisdom and maturity at that age, but they're better than their late teens or early twenties. So in practical terms I would say late twenties for both is probably the best time to start a family.

[RedInnocent69]

There’s never an ideal age. People will always overthink and make excuses. Especially guys. If I had to hazard a guess, I’d probably say early 30s. Old enough to have done stuff on your own, wealthy enough to afford to take care of them, but young enough to still do stuff with them.

[RageBabe]

I agree with @HawkPerception there isn't an ideal number whenever you feel ready is when is best for you to have a baby.

[NathanDavis]

whenever you're actually both ready... because feelings can often be, misleading, or not well informed, lol

[RageBabe]

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[Billlewis]

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[RageBabe]

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[Billlewis]

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[RageBabe]

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[Billlewis]

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[The_Confusion]

@Billlewis do you personally identify as a "cuck"?

[Billlewis]

@The_Confusion Yes, Sir, absolutely.

[Zack-Bann]

Not a fan of early age parenthood simply because it’s harder to raise a kid when you’re still learning about the world yourself


And parenting should be taken seriously as you only get one shot at not messing a kid’s head

[DJB72]

Younger is better. I'm 52 and my son is 6. His friends have grandparents my age.

I'm not as flexible as I used to be, and I lost my leg.

Younger would definitely have been better

[MicahRaine]

Whenever you and your partner are BOTH ready.

I've known 30 yo couples who were terrible parents, and 17/18 highschool sweethearts who were AMAZING parents.

Really just depends on the couple.

[ohsheeT]

Not until both parties are mature you have at least $200,000 in the bank you both have a car you have a house you're paying your insurance and you're both happy

[DrPepper12]

Doesn't exist and stop wasting your time driving yourself nuts. When you're ready you discuss it and then the magic happens when you both agree.

Life doesn't have a sequence or order of living. Be in the now. Trust me!!

[MemeSupreme]

probably 20s bc you live longer to see them grow up

BUT realistically there's no age bc it's all on when you're ready

[PeachyPie93]

I would say 25+ and only if you have a mature partner. Anywhere before that you are setting your kids up to be poor..

[EzraIsShy76028]

Probably around 30. Any younger is probably too immature and naive to have kids, and any older might have trouble getting pregnant.

[schoolgirlskirtcaley]

When you’re ready you’re ready. Also “if”.
No set age

[exitseven]

It depends on your maturity, financial position and attitude. Some people will never be ready.

[Anonymous]

I don't think there's a universal ideal that would work for everyone, but I think a reasonable balance for a good number of folks would be something like early to mid-20s for girls and late 20s or early 30s for guys.

[dragoblack]

in my opinion 25. You get your party years out of your system, you have time to work on getting your life stable, and you have time to get an apartment

[Radiate143]

These blanket questions can't ever provide useful answers.

[Jennz6]

Some parents are better at age 22years old than others at 32years old so it varies

[007kingifrit]

obviously younger is better so you can have more, recover from the pregnancy, spend more time with your kids.

[clampfan101]

Whenever both partners are very much ready and wanting. It’s not about their age.

[Killerqueen13]

As someone who had a baby at 21 and barely experienced life. I highly recommend living a little before you devote yourself to being a parent.

[Nikki1989]

25-30, probably.

[WhitneySnow]

Thirties. That’s how old my mom was.

[12karen]

Between 25 and 30 for women

[jahaims]

Everyone matures at a different rate

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

30….

[Jmmmfi4]

NEVER!!!

KEEP YOUR MONEY

[swettannie]

i'd say 25

[Slim57]

90 years old