Could her bitterness end our friendship?

[Anonymous]

One of my best friends resents me for coming from a rich family and having a relatively easy life, whereas hers is very hard. She seems to be getting more and more bitter towards me and I never brag and I’m quite grounded. What I see is that we’ve had a very good friendship up until this year, when she fell out with me once, over a guy she liked liking me.

Then we resumed our friendship and she attacked me because she thought another guy she liked preferred me. I let it go. Recently, I’ve been attacked twice in one week. With her accusing me of being toxic in our friend group and accusing me of being annoying and interrogating her, when I was showing interest in her day out, meeting people. I told her this time, that I find her behaviour unacceptable. I’m not going to stay friends with her if she keeps being nasty to me. On the other hand, if she wants to stay friends, she’ll need to be more respectful from now on.

we haven’t spoken since yesterday and I’m wondering what I should do next? Leave it for a few days, or for a week or two? To make a point? Or has my point already been made?

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn girl, this is a tough one. Sounds like her jealousy and bitterness has really escalated over time.

I'd give it some space for now - like at least a week maybe - so the dust has time to settle. Use this phase to carefully reflect on the friendship. Some things to consider:

- Has she always been resentful deep down or is this a newer development? Jealous friends can grow toxic over years sadly.

- How much negativity are you willing to tolerate in your friendships? You don't deserve constant attacks.

- Would some time apart help or is the underlying issue just too much now? Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but also clearer.

When you do talk again, I'd set firm boundaries. Let her know recurrent bitterness is a dealbreaker. Suggest working on it in therapy together if she wants to salvage the friendship long run.

Otherwise you might need to have a hard conversation about drifting apart. These things sometimes just run their course, especially as you get older and tolerate less BS.

Trust your gut - you know what level of drama you're willing to deal with, and what's worth fighting for. Do what's best for your energy and happiness! You've got this girl.

[Nikki1989]

If your friend's bitterness is consistently negative and affecting your emotional well-being, it might be necessary to reevaluate the relationship and possibly move on.

[Asker]

It’s starting to really bother me, to the point where I couldn’t text her today. I’ve tried telling her that it bothered me, but she’s continued with it. It actually started late last year; I’d forgotten. She’d say things like; ‘I’m bored;’ or ‘I actually had fun today;’ when we caught up for special occasions.

[Plugs]

Trust me. Jealous bitches like her never change. That’s why rich don’t associate with poor. Only thing u get in return for kindness is envy