I think I have asparagus/ autism. How do I deal?

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I hate being looked at and being I man public. I avoid eye contact. I feel so uncomfortable. I have no friends or family. I feel sad cause I want a hubby. I guess I’m so weird. I have sensory issues too. Clothes tags and seams bother me. And more.

help I feel alienish

LittleMelissa9614 · Accepted Answer

I know what you mean. I have aspergers myself. Although, I was diagnosed as a kid. I've grown out of my sensory issues (maybe I might still have a couple, not really sure). My sensory issues were pretty bad back then, but now I'm good. I had bad eye contact when I was in school and was very shy, didn't know how to talk to people so much. Pretty much just hid myself. If it weren't for the help I've had in school, help from a lot of my teachers especially the ones I've had in high school, I wouldn't be the person I am now. Since then, I gotten out of my shell (sometimes my shyness comes back, but nothing major and I get myself out of it) now I can talk to anyone, I practiced better eye contact, and I've gotten over my sensory issues, and more. I have a steady job that I love and I can drive even though some people think we autistics can't, but heck with it, we autistics are very smart. Some people know that and some don't. I'm sure you're smart too. I don't always tell people about my autism because I used to looks from people like I have 5 heads and sometimes they'll treat me different even though I know how to act and talk like an adult. Unless the person understands, then I'll say something. I hate when people say that autistics can't live a normal life, even though that's not true (although, what is normal now a day, lol). Like I said we're very smart. I know how you feel about feeling sad and wanting a husband, that's literally me too. I want a husband and children so bad! But I know I'll find him one day, get married and have kids❤️ I'm sure you will too! Being in love is a beautiful feeling. Sometimes I do also feel like I'm weird, but just have to learn to embrace it. You should accept the fact that you have it, but it doesn't mean you have to put a label on yourself. I would say try to get an official diagnoses if you can. Learn to accept yourself for it, embrace it. Keep your head up, you'll get through it.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

Asparagus 😭

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Either you have some form of it or you don't and if you do you have to acknowledge it and accept it and then

Whether it's in person or even online try to bring up conversations with somebody have talks experience life through the internet through role play so you get that experience so when you go out you can talk to people you can look deep into their eyes

If there's something that you think would better you than do it especially when you don't want to do it

Ironic_Method · Accepted Answer

I have autism along with a myriad of sensory issues, but it's never stopped me from getting a date. You can still be awesome enough that your flaws (regardless of where they come from) are worth putting up with.