How to learn how to accept help?

[Justneedtokno]

I think I am not good at this at all. I’d rather bitch complain about something. Don’t accept the help and just keep going and struggle through.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Start with how you feel, does the idea of accepting help feel shameful? Does it make you feel weak? What are the bad feelings you associate with receiving help?


From there, go back to your memories, try to trace the feeling back to when you felt that way for the first time. See if it has to do with some relation to one’s vulnerability, how was that treated in your past? After that, try and address it as best you can, ideally with a professional like a therapist but if one is not available then you can try a bit of research into some surface-level psychology. Remember that accepting help isn’t necessarily these things you were made to feel it was, and try to step out of your comfort zone as you learn to rationalize this discomfort away.

[Justneedtokno]

Now this is beautiful and definitely pride

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

A very common starting point. Pride is often the source of most feelings of shame. Perhaps some practices in humility would help? And I don’t mean this in the way that you should devalue yourself. There’s nothing wrong with knowing your worth, or your strength, but knowing your strength means also knowing your limits and weaknesses and acknowledging them.

[Wiredone]

Sometimes you have to put your pride in the draw and accept help when offered. I also have a hard time accepting help when offered but over the years I learned to know what my limitations are

[Justneedtokno]

See the recognizing portion is now my situation

I didn’t understand it hurts others when you don’t

[Wiredone]

Thanks for the mho

[AviatorTom]

Best way to learn to accept help is to help others, see how they handle it, and learn from that.

[EnjoytheDay777]

It's tough, same with me. My issue is trust

[EnjoytheDay777]

I'm working on that, I reached out to someone and it's still hard for me to share my shit

[eagle1951]

that's a hard one

[Jennz6]

Me too honey

[NathanDavis]

therapy