How do I cope with family all married Christmas and I’m only single person for holidays help?

[Sugar100]

Everyone in my family, my brothers wife’s 4 sisters too, all married, have babies, house, bliss and happiness on Christmas. And it’s difficult for me as I’m the only one single and alone, bored, no man talk to me, and I feel unhappy and empty , watching everyone blissful severely happy. It hurts me.
im at point ignored as everyone is in their own world sitting next to their partner and I’m all alone.
it feels there’s no point for me to even exist and to just stay home and cry.

im scared celebrate Christmas this year as aagin I’ll have to stare at eveyone happy blissful and I’m depresed alone hallow. 😞

[Anonymous]

You could marry someone

Or realise being single gives you more power than you know. You can do what you want, whenever you want. Want to move to Japan? You can do that. Want to skydive on a random Monday? You can do that. You hold unlimited power.

[HollyK21]

Sugar you have no idea how to be happy on your own. Your life seems to revolve around finding a boyfriend and I believe that’s why you are single. You have to learn how to be good on your own first, you would be way too codependent and needy, wouldn’t know how to do a single thing without him there, a man wants to see you have your own identity and right now you don’t. You live for the idea of being a wife, it’s so unhealthy.

[Sugar100]

That’s not true. I know a girl she had a boyfriend since age 18 and together forverr and married at 25 . Her whole life revolved around being with her boyfriend.

Isn’t that needy? Codependent?

Since 18 I NEVER had a boyfriend. My life revolves around being alone 24/7 age 18-30.

What u r saying is bullshit doesn’t make any sense at all.

[HollyK21]

She’s been in the same relationship for years, I wouldn’t call that needy or codependent. In your case it’s like you’re constantly looking for a man and sad without one. Get defensive and upset all you want, it doesn’t take away from how much you obsess over trying to be a girlfriend.

[Sugar100]

Yes that’s needy , I’m sure she would be looking for a man 24/7 if she was alone like me 27 years never had a boyfriend.

[HollyK21]

Sugar that is not what the average woman is doing 24/7, that’s why I’m telling you this in the first place. I’m not trying to make you feel bad I just don’t think this is healthy to obsess over being a girlfriend the way that you do. Relationships are meant to be an extension of an already fulfilling life.

[Sugar100]

I see her 24/7 with her boyfriend. She’s never alone. That’s not healthy.

[Sugar100]

Spending holidays , going to fmaily events, dinners, to the stores with a partner is not a heal th y relationship then that’s being needy and u need do everything alone no partner with u then. Just see ur boyfriend once a month 🙁🙄🙄

[Sugar100]

That’s being needy if girls need be with thier partner for all those events. They need show up alone 24/7 . Learn be alone not with. Partner

[Sugar100]

That’s what ur trying to say 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

[Sugar100]

Fuck off.

[HollyK21]

Great sarcasm but let’s just be mature adults in this conversation, okay? Obviously it is not needy to be with you literal husband everyday, they live together. This is not the same as a woman like yourself who fixates on trying to become a girlfriend. I am engaged but prior to this I had no focus on men. In fact I wasn’t even trying to meet my man when I did, he had to try very hard. That’s another reason why I’m telling you the average woman is not obsessed to this degree about obtaining a man.

[HollyK21]

Fuck off? You’re a child.

[pascal_climbs]

Go on a holiday. Problem solved

[FunkyMonkee]

Just go and have a good time!!

[Emmytexrex]

Go have a good time somewhere if you have to