How do you cope with being alone on Christmas?

[Anonymous]

I've been alone on Christmas alomst every year. I have spent time with friends 2 times in past years. I once went back for X-Mass to visit my parents, we don't get along and it was very awkward and uncomfortable. I live in the same area as my parents, I already told them I did not want to see them. Parents are divorced. I'm still single and it baffles me every year that I'm litrerally in this same boat time and time again.

[Screenwriter]

I'd suggest that you plan to have some people over, say two or three, for dinner. People like yourself who don't have anywhere to go. Make it a Christmas potluck. You're all old enough to be able to whip something up.

And if the family is cool enough, you can often go to someone else's house and enjoy being around people. Usually you'll be going home with extra food for the next day, or later in the evening if it's an afternoon soiree' like with my family.

Call some friends and find out if there are a few you can do this with. It makes for a festive occasion and a new kind of family. Make your own! Good luck.

[Changiis07]

I would just try to make the most out of it. Christmas doesn't have to be celebrated on the 25th, you can do Christmasy things before that with friends as friends become family also. Go get some coffee and enjoy a ride to go see lights or plan some fun activities. Buy a few thoughtful gifts to people you admire or friends. Go home and watch movies and make the most out of it

[Fireguy17]

That can be tough.

We are constantly bombarded with happy ads, people making it home just in time through a blizzard, hallmark movies, but that just makes it harder on those of any age that are alone for whatever reason.

Is there a shelter or something you can volunteer at for the day?

It might do you some good helping others.

I wish I had an answer for you.

I hope you find someone to share the day with.

[Asker]

I'll figure something out. I have my cat for company 🤣

[Fireguy17]

Awwww, get something for kitty from Santa.
I know if I knew of a friend that was alone I would invite them to wherever we were going.
It's just what you do.

[lightbulb27]

I'd find ways to fill myself with joy, rest, set goals, exercise, go to church service, help others, care for animals, etc.. if ya don't want to be around parents and others, so be it... that's sad.

definitely get healing/therapy for what is blocking you from moving forward. that can be done in many ways but must be an effort to heal and rise above the emotional damage handed to you.

[rosemilk]

do things to distract yourself. treat yourself. self care. anything. even buy yourself a few things! tho i am not alone, i fucking hate Christmas because of some of the same reasons as you. treat it as any other day. although Christmas is only like 2 days at most, but people make it the whole entire month and it's insufferable, so i totally feel for you.

[Dinklex3]

I just make the best of it. Have a nice quiet date alone. Set up the Christmas tree and cook a nice meal and have snacks. Turn on my favorite kdrama.

[beautyjoyfover200]

I have “daily dose of sunshine” ready for the weekend 😊

[Dinklex3]

@beautyjoyfover200 That’s on my list! Lol

[exitseven]

There was one year when I hurt my back really bad. My wife took the kids to her parents house and I stayed on the floor whacked out on pain pills and watched the Star Wars marathon on TV.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t mind it. I always felt fine with my own company.

I know next year this time, I’ll be spending it differently.

[Nikki1989]

I have never allowed myself to be alone or feel alone at any time in my life.

[AutumnSerenity]

As my grandmother would always say: being alone is a beautiful thing - no one to tell you how to live, judge or criticize what you do, or invade your privacy. Love your own company and stop romanticizing your memories. People aren’t a requirement for happiness.

[HawkPerception]

Luckily I haven't had to be completely alone as of yet. I've always had my family. I can understand how depressing it can be if you're completely alone though. I think the best thing to maybe prevent that is by going to a bar, meeting new people and finding some friends and inviting people you learn to trust to your place for Christmas maybe suggesting a potluck. It's not easy, but socializing is the best way to prevent loneliness.

[FunkyMonkee]

This'll be my 3rd Christmas completely alone. It's just another day of the year to me, now. About the only think I do is buy myself something rather expensive that nobody else would ever get me. This year, I can't think of anything I'd want. Maybe a Chapman Stick but, those are quite expensive, a few thousand dollars, even used ones!

[worldscolide]

do you not have family you can be with? I am so sorry. I have been there though, in my early 20's i had no one, not even my mom to be with.. Even my girlfriend at the time didn't invite me.. It was SO DEPRESSING.. I really wish towns had activities those that are alone on Christmas could participate in to create a sense of community. Its one of the reasons that suicides are so damn high this time of year.

[SolitarySolace]

I would get myself gifts. Pamper myself. luckily I have a good family on both sides and will have two christmases. I don’t need a romantic partner to feel happy. Especially after the last 3 cheated on me. I’d rather be alone.

[Tapeworm]

Try eating raw heart, injecting steroids, and cooming into a homemade jar.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@Tapeworm lolz

[Tapeworm]

@D_Bone_Steak just got news. calgaryherald. com/news/crime/arrests-made-in-9-million-money-laundering-operation

The fucking stupid sheep literally cry about how the streets are being made safe by this...

I never ordered from them but it's fucking disgusting how some shotty government that fucks us over is entitled to raid their laboratory and take what's theirs. That's a non violent business, literally serves Canadians and makes it a better place. They want a population of soyboys.

[D_Bone_Steak]

It's the soyboys themselves that I think find it so offensive. Notice that most dating sites have banned shirtless pictures of dudes like me. Why would they do that?

I think it's because they hate the competition. I simply took my shirt off 10 years ago and I was fucking all the chicks on the site that was near enough to meet up with.

I believe their hatred of steroids is along the same lines... they view it as creating unwanted competition by dudes that get on gear and steal their girlfriends. Sure, it might damage their liver or whatever, but they don't ban additives in popular foods that do the same shit or helps make a bunch of obese people. So the self-harm argument is laughable. Alcohol and tobacco are age-restricted, but they allow that... steroids though... why is it even illegal?

My theory is the soy boys hate the competition. It's not females that go out of their way to ban it. Just like it wasn't females that went out of their way to ban my shirtless pictures from sites where it's just a bunch of chicks picking out guys they might want to fuck more than anything else like companionship.

A classic example of soy boys trying to eliminate the competition that they view as unfair competition AKA the guys that steal their girlfriends AKA Assholes... because they love to call us that.

These guys would probably prefer to put shirts on us at the beach instead of letting chicks hang out with their titts out. They have achieved that on the online dating sites which is scary.

[TiaNour]

@serenalovesramen 💀

[Tapeworm]

@TiaNour my 10 comments on that news article were removed. Apparently they don't allow horror cocks to discuss how sexist and misandrist it is to prohibit the synthesis of the primary male hormone but brewing estrogen at home is perfectly legal.

I was also giving them a lesson that estrogen is biologically active in concentrations, in men like a thousand lower. This when they say "anaboloc steroids" they are cursing androgens specifically, no body ever got busted for brewing estrogens. And guess what, estrogen is more anabolic than testosterone or any of its derivatives, both in gram to gram comparison, but also testosterone burns fat whic makes it the opposite of anabolic. And still the Canada, couple weeks ago my nearest city bragged about trannifying a child... they claim to be the least sexist country ever...

[serenalovesramen]

what’s this guy yapping about

[Tapeworm]

@serenalovesramen doesn't it sound like misandry when people get charged for brewing testosterone in their basement, which is a hormone that makes you gain some weight and has some side effects when taken in excessive doses, but nobody ever gets charged for brewing estrogen with makes you gain magnitudes more weight and has far worse far less-reversible side effects? In our bodies it's found in roughly a thousand times lesser concentration than testosterone so it's more "anabolic" - their title is misleading, they don't hate anabolism, because estrogen is anabolic, they hate androgenic steroids that make you strong.

Even when speaking of doses relative to what's in our body, still, a testosterone double the upper end of normal range is only going to cause your left heart ventricle to grow a tint bit, not enough to cause you to die prematurely, is actually beneficial. Bioidentical testosterone is also mild on cholestrol and is nontoxic to digestive organs. But estrogen? It literally causes mitochondrial dysfunction, cancer, makes you obese, and harms your heart even worse than testosterone if only you keep your mean estrogen levels twice the amount of normal levels, the same percent elevated that you elevated your testosterone. They throw estrogen pills at developing teens for birth control!

And... then there is atrazine in the water turning frogs gay in farm runoffs. It's literally in our food we eat and water we shower with, I can link pubmed articles with the stats.

Still atrazine is legal. A hundred other estrogenic pollutants that destroy wildlife are legal. But testosterone? That which most humans are clinically deficient in? Brewing it will get you in the news with some defamatory comments from soyboys.

Like d_bone said, smoking and drinking needs age verification butbis legal. Brewing androgens... why don't they make an age verification for that?

It's misandry.

But I've got a plan. I won't reveal it until it's done.

[serenalovesramen]

Alright buddy calm down on the yapping

[Tapeworm]

@serenalovesramen right. Less yapping more cooming.

[LiamJHayden]

If I were in that situation I'd go and volunteer somewhere to help feed homeless and other needy people.

[ShellyBo]

Liam, I tried that two years in a row. Once was a men's shelter and one was a women's shelter.
We worked our asses off feeding them. Not ONE person was grateful, and not ONE person offered to help with the cleanup. Find a dirt poor kid. Give them a guitar and teach them how to play it.

[Yannae]

I would cope by feeling better alone than with people I don't even want to hangout with. I go after what's best for me.

[KrakenAttackin]

You just deal with it. I watch Christmas movies with my cat and just hang out. It's really not that bad.

[elduderinosupreme]

I typically get a bottle or of jack and get shit faced. But at this point that's every other week. I might be an alcoholic.

[Crankor]

Plan an activity for yourself, cook something neat, learn to juggle? Really it's just another day.

[AngryCarl]

This year will be my first Christmas on my own. I'll have to let you know how it goes.

[EmpressAJ]

I’d buy myself some gifts or I’d go volunteer somewhere and help out with an organization

[gorydetails]

You have no other family? Friends?

[Asker]

My mandarin friend invited me to his place.

[gorydetails]

So then you won’t be alone.

[Charliefretz329]

Try to stay busy and do nice things for other people