It’s very complicated and a long story. My sisters lived with mum and I lived with my dad growing up. Dad worked away so my former step mother looked after me and she was extremely abusive. Fast forward to now (I’m an adult now), my dad would say hurtful things or critique my appearance/size (I’m a US size 6). I would get upset and disagree or run to my room crying - they called this being “too sensitive” or “blowing it out of proportion”. My dad and new step mum would be the first to tell everyone about this and make me look bad. Then my siblings would give me the cold shoulder when it’s nothing to do with them. They also would complain that I never helped when I spent every evening helping them around the house and cleaning their guest rooms after work.
I would also hear all the nasty things they would say behind my back. The worse was when they said the car didn’t even hit me (I was in a car accident and took 3 months to recover from my injuries). Earlier this year, I had a massive fight with my dad, I got good news and they called me and critiqued it until I was upset. By this point I had already moved out and decided to stand up for myself and said if they can’t respect my boundaries then to leave me alone, that I wasn’t going to tolerate nasty comments anymore. So they cut me off, they told my sisters and my sisters gave me the cold shoulder. I haven’t spoken to them since until today. I reached out to all of them and apologised. Got ignored mostly but my sister said I “twist things”, “blow things out of proportion” etc and that I have to apologise to everyone. Eventhough I’ve done this, they don’t seem to really care. It hurts so bad. I’d never do anything to hurt anyone. I don’t understand any of it and I don’t want to be alone during the holidays, what should I do? Why are they like this?
My family don’t care about me, I’m scared of being alone during Christmas, what should I do? Why are they like this?
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