Was I right in not unleashing my fury on a former tormentor?

[Anonymous]

This girl treated me horrible in 7th grade (the most awful school year ever) and even feigned a friendship. We haven't seen each other since freshman year.

Fast-forward to our Senior year of HS:

While I'm completing my community service hours on an elementary school (as part of the graduation requirement), I see her walk into the office with her mother. She now had a big belly and clearly with a sad expression. It seems like she might be 7-8 months pregnant and we're 17 year-olds.

We looked at each other briefly, then she looked down and left with her mother. That was my perfect chance to unleash my fury, pulled her aside in private to call her all the horrible names in the dictionary and then tell her mother how horrible I've been treated by her and her followers but I said nothing. I had no words to say, none but just think of it as poetic justice.

I got humiliated for an entire year just because I got sick with a cold. At least a year passes by quickly. She has to deal with being a single mother and be stuck with that for 18 years, lol. Was I right to say nothing or would you have said many things?

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For the first time, I didn't see her as the stuck-up nasty girl, as the tormentor but as a lost child, sad and depending on her mother for support.

[MissTrix]

Depends how you se eit in a few years!

From how it sounds you were probably right to not unleash it then... Every one would be mad you screamed at a pregnant teen who is helpless and useless and needs all the attention and care!

Good luck had to work for my highschool bully! He acted like he never treated me wrong ever but still acted the same.

[Asker]

yeah I would've been seen as worse than her. I'm sorry to hear about your unremorseful bully. They rarely ever changed and if they do, it's only when some major impact either happens to them or one of their close family members. Otherwise, they see nothing wrong with treating you like garbage.

[MissTrix]

Even if Thier family is treaded bad they don't see how bad they were. TV sometimes makes bullys remorseful but they never are!

[Asker]

and the baby will likely follow his/her mother's path on becoming the next closed-minded, bully in the future. I'm beginning to think that if they see nothing wrong with how bad they were, then it's likely they have some narcissistic traits and basic some basic empathy.

[Asker]

**and lack some basic empathy

[MissTrix]

Fully agree bully's make spoiled hateful bully's yet we don't seem to think it matters! Just let the kid do what ever they choose