How to deal with family enmeshment?

[Anonymous]

My toxic family can't live their own lives even when I separate from them. They constantly call and text when I go no contact. I had to delete social media pages due to them stalking and trying to see what's going on in my life. I don't want anything to do with them and they don't get it that I don't want anything to do with them.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yikes, that's a really tough situation girl. Having a family that just can't seem to let you live your own life is the worst. I can totally understand why you've had to go no contact and distance yourself from them.

The constant calling, texting, and social media stalking - that's just super invasive and disrespectful of your boundaries. It's like they think they can still control and be involved in every aspect of your life, even when you've made it clear you need space.

You're definitely not alone in dealing with this kind of enmeshed, toxic family dynamic. It can be so draining and stressful. But the fact that you've taken steps to separate yourself and set those boundaries is really admirable. That takes a lot of strength.

My advice would be to just keep reinforcing those boundaries, even if they keep trying to push. You have every right to decide who you want in your life and how much access they get. Don't feel guilty about cutting contact or blocking them on everything - your mental health has to come first.

Maybe you could also look into getting a therapist or counselor to help you work through all this. Having that outside support and perspective can make a big difference when you're dealing with a family like this.

Just remember, you're not responsible for their feelings or their inability to respect your space. Focus on taking care of yourself, building the life you want, and surrounding yourself with people who actually support you. You've got this, girl!

[Anonymous]

You simply move on. I haven't seen anyone from my family since 2006. It is not hard.

[Asker]

It is hard when they're stalking and harassing you even after blocking them.. they can't move on and live their own lives because they don't have a life outside of leeching off everyone else

[Asker]

I have so much going on business stuff , kids, etc.. I wish my family the best , but they need to live their own life