Has anyone here ever been ghosted by a friend before?, I just want to ask so I know i'm not alone in a situation like this?

[Anonymous]

One of my good friends of 12 years just completely ghosted me last October, he just completely cut off communication with me unexpectedly, out of the blue, and he has of course obviously completely ignored all of my attempts to get in contact with him again.

Has anyone else besides me ever gone through something like this before?

It hurts because i didn't have a fight or argument with my friend, we didn't exactly have a falling out with each other, however, some warning signs were, that i don't think his mental/emotional health is doing well, because back in September, me and him went like 2 to 3 weeks without any communication with each other, he then told me he was going to these group therapy sessions for his mental/emotional health.

That is my only clue as to why he ghosted me, his mental/emotional struggles, pain, wants his space, but still, he never confronted me about it, i feel there is more he is not telling me.

has anyone else here ever been ghosted by a friend before, had someone just cut off contact with you unexpectedly and have ignored all further attempts at communication?

[naartjie]

I just ghosted a friend.
5 months ago we planned to move in together when I came back from being overseas.

I genuinely just felt we weren’t the right fit and to avoid arguments or anything negative, I just never messaged again or anything.
She wasn’t a good friend or at least not to me. She had zero motivation for anything and often tried to drag me down with her in the sense of getting me to do what she’s doing so she’s not alone.
I don’t know, I just don’t feel happy being friends with her even though we had some nice moments and liked living together.
Also the way her and another friend of hers shit talked her friends boyfriend and then we’re still super friendly to him, it definitely had me thinking what if she does the same about me so I don’t trust her.

[Asker]

just seems mean and rude, because the other person just feels like they are not given closure, they wonder what they did wrong

[naartjie]

Part of being an adult is not expecting closure from anyone. My choice was the perfect one because I can’t be bothered with arguing or problems/drama and with women is way worse if you bring up these things and try end a friendship.
Sometimes you also have to think about yourself and your own wellbeing and not tiptoe around how others feel.
Also, and I’ll repeat, she wasn’t a good friend to me and not a good influence so my choice was rightfully so. I don’t owe anyone anything.

[Asker]

im thinking i should realize my friend was not a good friend after all then

[naartjie]

Possibly. I don’t know enough about your life to say

[SweetJoyGirl]

I am have not been ghosted by a friend. I have been the one to ghost a friend…

I didn’t do it due to anything mental health, tho.

I would say since he has been having some mental health issues, just leave it. He will either comeback or not.

[Asker]

ghosting just seems to be mean and rude, because it gives the other person lack of closure, it leads them to being clueless as to why their former friend no longer talks to them

[xkildy]

I was talking to this girl for 6 months, loved every min of it. But one day something broken in me and I stopped responding to her message. I still yet to this day can't believe i did that. Or why!! no matter what was going on what I remember I can't figure out why. So I try my best to understand myself better and to not make that mistake again. *by the way* if anyone wants to be friends on here I will not ghost you. male female Im a friendly person. Who will match your energy <3

[Oldschool1981]

I was in the wedding party for a buddy from high school. As soon as dinner was finished at the reception, I went out for a smoke and never came back.

[gemb00]

I have been the ghost in this situation. The reason why was I found out she was two faced and not a nice person so I felt it was easier just to cut contact without giving her a reason why. Cowardly I know. I didn’t want to be friends with someone who talked nice to your face but nasty behind your back. I felt if I told her the real reason, she’d make a huge drama about it and I’m too mature for all that playground crap.

[moviedude714]

Sadly I know that feeling very well