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We had talked exclusively online for close to a year before she got pissed at me for stuff and ghosted me. 8 months later right about the start of the pandemic she messaged me again out of the blue to see if I was alright re-igniting things. 9 months later it once again went it's course with her yet again abandoning me.
How did I recover? Well, the first time was rather easy since I had only recently moved across the country to a new city and I was kinda busy most days dealing with tons of shit so... I just focused on work, getting my own place and figuring shit out. Less than 3 months later I'd be in my own shitty studio/bachelor apartment which, ironically, she'd message me again months after that just before I left and returned back to my hometown.
The second time? I started working out constantly, fell right into my music, kicked a wicked drug addiction and completely went cold turkey on all of LSD, Oxy, DMT, Gbh, Coke and Weed as well as alcohol. Pandemic helped with this tbh since it also cut my supply of two of those off completely. Over the course of 4 long months I endured a hell of a wicked fucking withdrawal and slowly began pursuing my love as a career and repairing my life. I also relapsed about 4 months after kicking the drugs. Still working on it even now almost a year later. Currently smoking weed but haven't touched the others including alcohol in months.
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Twice. A girl I dated for 9 months ghosted me after a minor argument. She was young and immature but still I didnât that was a low I didnât think I would sink too.
The second time was with a long time âgal palâ. We reconnected after I moved back to my home state. I used to think she was the type I could confide anything in and she wasnât judgmental (I am not a serial killer or anything).
She then ghosted me and then tried to connect again. She blocked me earlier on all her social media apps and but then tried to message me on LinkedIn two years later. I was pleasant at first because I wanted to see what she would say. She acted like nothing was wrong and that infuriated me. I called her fake ass every name in the book and then blocked her. I hate people like that. Also another reason why I donât make friends with women (along with a multitude of other reasons).
Yes. Someone I've known since we were 8 years old and who I was good friends with from high school onward.
But, she is struggling with cancer and perhaps had to focus more on herself and her immediate family, and my friendship wasn't easy enough to maintain. We're long distance, we've always had an edgey friendship.
But I have to say, I've felt terribly hurt and have been lonely for our endless talks about cooking and her grandkids and what plans she had to travel with them and her daughter.
She is terribly funny and engaging and confrontational. But, I think she likely needs a non-challenging, easy friendship. Not what we've had.
So, I've had to let her go and wish her well. I apologized for anything wrong I've done that precipitated this cut-off. But perhaps it was a collection of issues. It's clear She was more important to me than vice versa. Makes me very sad to lose someone I've know nearly 60 years. It's a death.
You never get over it, you just get used to its existence.
He was my closest cousin.
That bastard ghosted me for no reason.
He always used to say that how precious I was to him, how much he misses me and all that emotional crap, but after years of our deep bond, he disappeared and even IGNORED me on my face whenever I last visited for many days. He didn't even spoke a word to me even after the long time I visited.
I'm really pissed off and consider him dead. He really hurt my feelings, I felt discarded, devalued and invisible.
We haven't spoken since years and I'll never forgive him even if he tries to come back.
What kind of a fake bond was this?
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I am going through this presently and I think I have a good understanding of how you might be feeling. I feel absolutely wretched and torn up. Constantly assessing what I could have done differently while also acknowledging that there was nothing at all wrong with my behavior. It just sometimes isnât the right moment between two people no matter how compatible they might be or how wonderful you know the relationship could be. Youâve just got to be committed to caring for yourself first and try to accept its outside of your control. I think of it like catching a butterfly. Youâve got to let it go for itâs own good or it is going to die. I hope you manage to see a path forward. I know I am going to try. :)
I was once ghosted by a friend, I have no idea what she thinks I did, or said? Iâve certainly never done anything deliberately that would or could hurt her. But she wonât accept my calls/texts, and blocked me on insta and tik tok. As for how I recovered?
I havenât, itâs a terrible thing when you know someone believes the worst in you, and will not give you a chance to even learn the accusations against me.
At this point, even if I did find out, I think it too late to ever save, repair, or revive the friendship. After the way she treated me, how could I ever truly believe that she is my friend? Ghosting someone is a horrible thing to do to a human being, it denies them their right to gain closure!About 10 years ago I kicked a woman out of my life. She lied to me several times and I finally caught on. She thought she would "punish" me by going NC. I honestly did not care. One day about a week later I was looking in my nightstand drawer looking for a key. I noticed something I won't disclose that I was 100% sure belonged to her. I tried to call her but was unable to do so. So I just removed it and put the item in my safe. I did finally come across her sister and told her what I had. You have to be allowed into my apartment building, so one day several days later this same woman buzzed me. I got the item and took it down. It really pissed her off that I did not care she ghosted me. I just told her she was lucky I did not throw that item away, then walked back up. In my view, you play stupid games you win stupid prizes.
Not intentionally. I grew close to someone online and he meant a lot to me. We talked endlessly but only ever knew each otherâs first names. We shared a lot of our lives, stories, heartaches. We lost contact and I will never have another way to reach out to him, nor he to I, if he wanted.
I did⌠he blocked me on everything one morning. We knew each other for a year and had a passionate intense romance but the situation became complicated and it became unhealthy between us. When he blocked me I was devastated and it shook me internally⌠I couldnât believe he couldnât talk to me and at least let me know. Now a month later, him blocking and ghosting me was the best thing he could have done for me.. I donât mean this in a bitter âIâm over that a$$!â kind of way. I mean, sometimes situations call for this and it gave me time to reflect, as well as him. If we talked it out, it wouldnât have gone this way. There was a lot of work on both our ends and no weâve spoken for the first time since he ghosted me and Iâve never felt more optimistic that one day heâll be my husband. I used to be anti-ghosting but Iâm not anymore. Sometimes itâs whatâs really needed.
I have been by one friend I considered to be one of my best friends. Turns out she was dating a guy that didn't think it was possible to be "just friends" with a guy... And he was abusive on top of that. They're thankfully not together anymore so we're good friends again.
I was really good friends with a girl for 6 months when I was younger. She used me for my kindness and took advantage of me, but I was too naive to notice. She then got up and moved across the country one day without telling anyone, and I never heard from her again. 2 years later some random guy messaged me and told me that sheâd been telling random people that I had ruined her life and that she hated me. I hadnât done anything bad to her though so it really annoyed me that she was lying to people about what happened. I also found out that sheâd started sleeping with my r*pist after she moved, knowing damn well who he is.
All in all Iâm glad she moved away. It taught me a valuable life lesson and I donât want her in my life ever again.I feel like I get ghosted by everyone I try to make friends with. I reach out to them and see how they are doing and they ignore me when they are bored or they don't see me as important.
Lowered my expectations and upped my standards. When you know you deserve better but you expect less from people in general (friends, fam, bfs, etx) life becomes a bit easier to live. You should not be surprised that the person turned out to be a flake. A lot of true colors are exposed by the day. Just know you likely deserve better. Maybe they realized that to and exited their way out of your life for that reason
Oh of course. It was an extremely horrible feeling, like one of the worst in the world. It took quite some time to recover from, but I will tell you it hurts like nothing you've ever felt before. The reason why? Because the impact is similar to the grief of losing a loved one. Psychologists have actually talked about this.
A couple of times. Both turned out they were going through extremely tough times. Made me feel like a complete **** for thinking anything else. I hope itâs a simple explanation.
Oh yes. It was really hurtful. I had a guy friend my freshman year of college and he moved away to New York. I visited him, no issues I remotely knew of. However after our visit he became more distant and just completely blocked me. Two years later, I can confirm this, because he reached out again and admitted it to me. He apologized profusely so I took him back as a friend. However just recently he invited me to LA for New Years but then uninvited me shortly after because he has a girlfriend now. I almost bought my tickets and everything. And we were strictly just platonic friends. Anyway, I became exhausted so I just ended up dropping him as a friend.
Unfortunately I have and it hurts cause I really had this strong connection with this person.
As for the recovering I do think about this person from time to time, but eventually you realize they really didn't care about you like they said they did. So the best thing to do is sad to say move on and find someone else that seems to care a lot about you.Absolutely! It happens all the time. Usually there are personality problems involved when that happens. Usually it has to do with a term we call "splitting". When a friend or lover idealizes then devalues you (its a defense mechanism). OR a person has narcissistic and sociopathic traits and ghosts you. An example would be your Narcissistic cheating husband meeting someone younger and all of a sudden leaving the family. Again- all personality issues.
realizing the truth, that people who ghost are generally shitty defective people and your life is most certainly going to benefit from their absence. You don't want or need people like that in your life. Cut off the emotions about it and let time heal the wound, you'll be okay.
Sure, but I find it best to just move on. If I am not so important to these people, it stands to reason that I should consider them unimportant and seek more meaningful connections. There's not really a method there you can emulate, I'm just not very sentimental.
Yes, but I chalk it up to my own fault. Sometimes you get into relationships, travel, and do things and you didn't read their tea leaves correctly even if they live far away. Maybe they got upset over one or all these things. Life is complicated, but also if they destined to be in your life, they'll be there.
Thatâs the worst way to end a relationship because itâs like treating someone like they donât exist by ignoring them.
Yes, quite often!
It depends on the situation. In some cases, I just blow it off and say, "Okay, BE that way!". In some cases, I might take it hard and be sad & depressed over it for a while. In either case, I eventually just get on with life and, if they come back, they come back! If they don't, their loss, not mine! I've got things to do.Yes it was the worst made me feel like the worst feeling I've ever felt and they came back after a long. Of time and basically did it again and then they came back again and tried to do it again but that time I just gave up that's how I got over it I finally started to hate the person. I was still fully not recovered from the ordeal but there was other stuff involved that made it very painful
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