Was it right for my parents to keep their secret that my 2 siblings died at birth?

[Anonymous]

It's been a couple months since finding out my 2 siblings (an identical sister and fraternal brother) died at birth. They would've been my age by now.

My parents still had my two brothers; one is 4 years younger than me (20) and the other just turned 18 recently. Needless to say at times I find myself mourning for them. They were still my siblings after all. I imagine my parents must be sad every time it's my b-day.

I wished they had told me this earlier so I can properly mourn for them. Was it right for them to keep this a secret from me?

[Staximus]

It's not your place or privilege to say when they should have told you. It's not all about you, as a matter of fact the issue is not about you at all. They told you when they were ready. A child doesn't need to worry about such things. After you are an adult and emotionally mature is the right time to tell you.

[Asker]

They wouldn't tell me nor my younger brothers. I found this out on my own. I find it hard to believe that we would've been 5 siblings if they had survived. We would've been a large family.

[Nikki1989]

I can only assume your parents might have genuinely believed they were protecting you from pain and grief by not sharing this information.

[Asker]

yet I was going to find out eventually and I did. I had to find on my own though.