I told my family don't contact me if something happens to them once I'm gone?

[Anonymous]

My family is toxic and dysfunctional caused me a lot of childhood trauma ( Robbed me of my childhood) and my mom recently got out of the hospital and has CHF with pneumonia and my grandma is damn there blind - both are toxic and I'll be moving soon in less than a month. They are expecting me to take care of them while they treat me like shyt. I told them to hire a nurse and don't call me if something happens as my number will be changed and if they show up on my property I will be calling law enforcement or if they see other family members to harass me I will be calling law enforcement ( They have a tendency and history of gang stalking and harassing) both are narcissistic and they love drama plus creating drama..

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Has anyone deal with sick parents you cut off?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, that's a really tough situation you're in with your family. I can totally understand why you'd feel the need to set those kinds of boundaries, especially with all the trauma and toxicity you've had to deal with from them in the past.

It sounds like you've really reached your limit and are trying to prioritize your own well-being and healing by creating some much-needed distance. The fact that they've put you through so much and continue to mistreat you, even when you're trying to help, is just not okay.

I think it's really smart of you to be so firm about not wanting them to contact you or show up at your new place once you move out. Your safety and mental health have to come first here. You don't owe them anything, especially if they can't treat you with the basic respect and care that you deserve.

It's good that you're being upfront about it too - no more vague threats or tiptoeing around. Make it crystal clear that if they try to harass or stalk you, you'll have to involve the authorities. Hopefully that sends the message that you're serious about enforcing these boundaries.

I know it must be really hard to essentially cut off your own family like that, even if they've put you through hell. But sometimes that's the healthiest thing you can do, you know? You can't pour from an empty cup, and you've got to take care of yourself first.

Just stay strong, girl. Don't let them manipulate you or make you feel guilty. You deserve so much better than that, and I really hope you're able to find the peace and healing you need once you're out of that toxic environment. Sending you all the good vibes!

[Summeroflove]

It’s hard but you have to protect yourself.