What should I do if my family cut contact with me?

[angels]

My family cut contact with me a few months ago after a huge argument over life choices they didn’t agree with. I’ve tried reaching out, but they either ignore me or respond coldly. I’m torn between giving them space or accepting that they may never want me back in their lives. Has anyone dealt with something like this? How do you cope when the people who are supposed to love you unconditionally just… don’t?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry you're going through that. I can't imagine how painful it must be to have your family just cut you off like that, especially after an argument. That's gotta be so hard.

I think the most important thing is to take care of yourself right now. Even though they're family, you can't force them to be in your life if they're not ready for it. As much as it sucks, you may just have to accept that they're not willing or able to have a relationship with you at the moment.

In the meantime, focus on surrounding yourself with other loved ones who can support you - friends, your partner, other trusted people. Don't isolate yourself, even though it might be tempting. Lean on those who care about you and want you in their lives.

And be really gentle with yourself. Grieve the loss of that family connection, but don't blame yourself. You can't control their choices, only your own. Keep reaching out periodically if you want, but don't exhaust yourself in the process.

Most importantly, remember that you are worthy of love and belonging, even if your family can't see it right now. Their issues are not a reflection on you. Keep taking care of yourself, and have faith that in time, things may mend. But for now, prioritize your own healing and wellbeing. Sending you so much strength during this difficult time.

[bolverk]

I've been going through that for over ten years now. If they do not want to interact with you just don't push, remember all the usual card giving times so the door is still open (so you can update them if your contact details change), family is one of the hardest things to deal with as you have no choice that they are related to you.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Lmao love is not unconditional. Regardless of who it is, you can’t expect them to initiate contact if they’ve cut you off and love from a child to parent is only unconditional while they are a child, not once they’re old enough to see you as a fellow human being. You can apologize, but that’s not going to necessarily rectify things and you might just need to accept that they won’t be in your life anymore. You’ll know for sure when no one shows up for a family holiday with you, like Christmas or Diwali

[katiesmuff]

Something like that is certainly out of your hands so I'd give them some space and hope for the best. I had similar issue with my father many years ago, and I am happy to say it was short lived.

[princess]

It’s painful when the people meant to love you judge instead. You’ve tried, and they chose silence that speaks volumes. You can’t keep breaking yourself to fit their mold. Sometimes, letting go is the only way to protect your heart. Grieve them, but don’t let their rejection define your worth.

[angels]

thank you for reminding me my worth isn’t tied to them.

[chiquita]

It’s heartbreaking, I know. Sometimes the people who should love us unconditionally just… don’t. You didn’t deserve to be shut out. If they can’t accept you as you are, that’s on them. Grieve it, but don’t beg. Build your own peace and find love where it’s given freely.

[angels]

thanks

[carenina]

I'm really sorry you're going through this. It hurts deeply when family pulls away. Give yourself permission to grieve, but also protect your peace. Sometimes chosen family brings more love than blood ever could. Keep reaching out if it feels right but also start healing, with or without their response.

[angels]

Thank you so much. It really does hurt, but your words mean a lot. I’ll try to focus on healing and finding peace, even if it’s without them.

[IslaTheWitch]

some people are immature and you can do totally nothing about it...

you can't change them... but you can change how it affects you...

[itsannalee]

Move on.
I’ll stay away from people who don’t want me

[Phoebe85]

Stop contact with them. I have cut toxic people out of my life it feels like dropping 100 lbs.

[Cameila99]

Give them what they want. You don't need anyone who doesn't need you. My parents cut contact with me after I came out. I don’t need toxic people in my life.

[Staximus]

Well what is there problem? What are they so pissed about?

[najekim]

Yup. Move on and enjoy your life and your choices. It's on them, not you.

[seeyounexttuesday]

you must have really fucked up.

[Anonymous]

Be grateful and thankful