At what point should you cut off contact with a family member?

[Amy10223]

Are there some of you out here who do not speak to a family member? Can you share why? I am at the point where I am here now. I am so sick of the relationship I have with this family member. She pretends to be my best friend, when in fact she is condescending and a hypocrite. I'm just not wanting to talk to her anymore.

[hahahmm]

Ignoring boundaries repeatedly and/or they are a threat to safety/peace. One person I cut off because they ignored boundaries I clearly stated and had to tell them about more than once. They did a bunch of other bad stuff but that was the last straw. In another case the guy did something so ridiculous and anti-family I was done. I just ignored all of his attempts to reach me. Some other family members who kept in touch with him later got burned by him too. For example he called up a pre-teen relative and threatened to sue her because he owed her money for something like a lemonade stand drink (just for example). Lmao. Total nutcase.

[hahahmm]

Some people seem to like drama. I know people who stay in contact with relatives who burn them over and over again & they go back and forth. I've had to tell them, don't ever bother me with the drama. I don't care if you et in a life or death fight with them: I DO NOT CARE. It was your choice to keep dealing with them. Call 911, don't bother me

[AviatorTom]

Amy, you answered you're only question. When you can say "I am so sick of the relationship", it's time to cut off contact with a family member. Maintain your sanity.

If your relative tries to make contact with you, tell them. It's up to them to repair the relationship, if they want, and you are willing.

[Amy10223]

After knowing them for this long and they never change, I really do not want to. It's better for my sanity, as you said. However, the rest of family would most likely talk me back into talking to her; this is what they do. They do not know about anything about the relationship, because I've told no one. My mother, who is long gone, had a hint about it, and did not approve of it, but never tried to do anything about it either. My older brother too was affected by her but never did anything as well.

[AviatorTom]

Thanks for MHO

[slatyb]

So don't talk to her. If you are at a gathering and she is present, be polite but do not get drawn into conversation. If she calls, don't answer. If she messages you, respond slowly or not at all.

[LunarEclipse433]

I have cut off several family members. Some I have not contacted in over 40 years

[NathanDavis]

fortunately, I am not in this situation...

[eagle1951]

when they are being a holes