Is it ok to stop talking to a relative if you feel you aren’t compatible with the person?

[Anonymous]

I have a cousin who is 15 years older than me she lives in another country so I didn’t grow up with her or know her well. Now that we have met up and texted a few times I’m starting to realise she can be quite rude and very clingy. I struggle to find any common ground with her as she is into religion and I’m not. One time she made me wait in the car while she went into church on a trip in Toronto and she wouldn’t let me go for a walk until she was finished. She also doesn’t have any respect for my schedule as we live in different time zones/ countries Most of the time she just whines about the fact she isn’t married at 45 and it makes me uncomfortable as I feel she is expecting too much from me.

[rosemilk]

yes. just because she's related doesn't mean you need to keep in touch if you feel uncomfortable and her behavior is too much

[Daniela1982]

OK, please explain, if she is this way why are you interested in her? You should be running the other way and not even conversing with her. I mean, you can't really be wanting to be abused, right? 🤔🤔🙄

[Asker]

I just felt bad for her because her brother doesn’t really talk to her and a number of other relatives. But then I started to get to know her a bit more and realised she is a bit crazy

[SotiCoto]

Obviously.
I barely even talk to any members of my family, and I get along just fine with them. We're just... not very social.

[Asker]

She also stopped in the middle of the highway screaming and going into panic because she isn’t used to the bigger city roads. I’m not from North America and I don’t have a licences and she made me feel about it.

[Laciejordan]

There are relatives that I don’t talk to, I’m not rude to them, I just won’t go out of my way to talk to them. Nothing wrong with that.

[Kykiono1]

Yes I did just that