What should I do when most friends don't care if they've seen me in months?

[Bethany22]

The only thing I can think of is that I'm boring, but I see other people get away with being boring yet still have people calling them wanting to get together.

[BobbieBoy666]

If most of your friends don't seem to care if they've seen you in months, it's important to reassess your friendships, prioritize the ones that are truly reciprocal, and consider putting more energy into building new connections with people who actively want to spend time with you; this may involve having an honest conversation with your current friends about your feelings, or simply gradually distancing yourself from those who don't seem invested in the friendship.
Here are a few steps you can take:
Evaluate the situation:
Consider if there are legitimate reasons for the lack of contact, like major life changes or busy schedules, before jumping to conclusions.
Communicate openly:
If you feel comfortable, try having a casual conversation with a few friends about how you feel, expressing that you'd like to spend more time together and see if they share your sentiment.
Focus on quality friendships:
Instead of trying to force connections with people who aren't reciprocating, invest your time and energy into the friendships where you feel genuinely valued and cared for.
Expand your social circle:
Look for new hobbies or activities that allow you to meet people with similar interests who might be more receptive to building a stronger friendship.
Reflect on your own behavior:
Check if you might be contributing to the situation by not actively reaching out or initiating plans yourself.
Set boundaries:
If you decide to distance yourself from certain friends, do so gradually and without drama.

[Communicationisking]

If someone you consider a friend doesn't care if they have seen you then maybe you should reconsider who your friends are.

Not saying that they don't care because they haven't contacted you but literally don't care that you are present or not and doesn't notice either way is not a friend IMHO.

[coolbreeze]

Friends can act weird and funny. Dont let it bother you because friends change with time. And sometimes they reach out when they want something or when they need a favor.

[OneViewpoint]

Not sure what you're used to but you're getting older. In high school we had all our friends around all the time. We all lived in the same town right?

Then it's off to college, often out of state. And the academics demand more time. Everyone goes back home for the summer. There's a class of seniors leaving every year and a new class of freshman arriving.

Then we graduate and everyone scatters to the 4 winds chasing careers. So you settle somewhere and make some friends. But they all start getting married. Or they move for their jobs. Or they have kids.

Then one day you realize that you're not in high school any longer. You're not even in college. Everyone's friend group shrinks. Getting together is less frequent. It may not be "you". It may be life happening.

What do you want? Weekly meetups? Monthly? Make it happen. Be the organizer. You may find a lot of people in the same boat waiting around for someone else to be the leader.

[RandomUser1000]

Maybe you need to look for a sale where you can buy 3 friends for the price of 2.

Or if you're into computers, then maybe you can RGB those giant transparent earrings.
At least it would look interesting.

Maybe people are busy with their own lifes?
Busy with work, busy with partner/family life, etc?
Doesn't have to be anything personal against you.
Even though I can understand it can feel sad.

Maybe if you try some new activities you could meet new people maybe?

[Crimsyjo]

Ohh I prefer female friendships like this. I don't want to hang out with friends too much. Sometimes it's about priorities (mine are wanting love and my FBs, study and work and chores) more so is probably not a reflection on you.

You may have already tried this but maybe reach out saying hey more frequently? Also look up events to go to and be the one to suggest going. Like a comedy night or quiz night or live band playing. If they on a health kick suggest going out for a long chat and walk? I had a neighbour I did this with. It's really good as most times we are social with people it's unhealthy - involves coffee shops, food, drink or bars and alcohol.

If u do that and they keep saying busy and stuff then I guess time to find new friends. Not easy at a certain age. But my going out friends I met after going to a few meet up events solo.

[Summeroflove]

Sometimes you need to find friends who genuinely care even if that’s a few now there is the other extreme of people who have zero boundaries and think your life revolves around them but.

I doubt you’re boring it’s just some people are busy especially if they have a ton of other friends.

[NoDecision]

Must not really be friends then. What you should do about that is up to you. Let me ask you this... Are they the ones that always have to contact you, or do you contact them also, and with the same reciprocation? It has to be a two-way street. When one has to do all the work then they just might balk on continuing that and quit you.

[Joshydavid25]

Nah, it's simply because they don't give much of a damn about you really.. I doubt it's because you're boring, maybe they just have a lot going on and don't really think much about you unfortunately.. But they definitely aren't great or even good friends at all.

[Sunrising]

I'm sure you have plenty of friends on GAG's that miss you, when you've not put questions on the website, or given your opinion for a while !

[oldpigg]

The truth is that I have never been interested in friendship, I only have friends when I have classes, when the holidays start we don't talk again.

[HungTexan]

Maybe you just need new and different friends. Boring or not, if you’re a nice person they should be happy to have you as a friend.

[ProbablyClueless]

I wouldn't take it as a comment on your personality, but you should probably find some friends who prioritize you a bit better.

[loveslongnails]

They're obviously not real "friends" and just acquaintances, so why do you care?

[Manuelwe]

You must make sure that you have not upset them. Or a rumour about you is a lie.
But if true then explain why you did it

[Professor-college]

If that were my case I would consider getting new ones because that means they couldn't care less about what happens to me

[Martha79]

You need new friends then.

[Anonymous]

Get new friends for the ones you have are fake.

[NathanDavis]

go to them yourself... knock on their doors

[Ms_Facesitter]

If it bothers you, you find new friends.

[nicfire171]

The important people will make time

[SherlockHolmo]

Your words reveal a sinister undertone. They speak of 'important people' caring, a veiled reference to the power dynamics at play in your depraved acts. Did you speak such kind words to those missing boys, when their screams echoed through the night? Seize his self-help books at once, @AnalUnraveler and examine them for fecal matter!

[AnalUnraveler]

Cease your temporal justifications, Suspect.

Your assertion that “important people will find time” is not sage advice—it’s a telltale manifesto for your clandestine calendar of carnal congress.

Only a sodomitical scheduler would weaponize punctuality to groom recruits for your after-hours assembly line of abominations.

“Important people”? A code for your network of vice-laden VIPs who “find time” only to bookend their days with deviance.

@SherlockHolmo, subpoena his planner—those cryptic “meetings” are clearly encrypted entries for back-alley baptisms and lunch-hour liaisons.

Confess: your prioritization begins and ends with pants-down productivity. The docket of your depravity is in session.

[Staximus]

Can somebody get rid of this idiot

[msc545]

Find better friends...

[Bklynbadboy12]

Move on cause they obviously aren't real friends

[Cheerfull009]

You also don't care

[cmf1989]

Get new friends