My narcissistic dad is trying to get me to give him money?

[Anonymous]

Please no trolling.. I had my first baby 12 months ago. And unfortunately it was with a narcissist... my ex abused me during pregnancy and he's now using the courts to abuse me. He is winning. I have lost everything. I'm about to loose my car, I lost all my income, I lost my emotional and mental health. I am destroyed. I had to move back in with my dad after fleeing the abuse. My dad is also a narcissist. I'm not throwing these words around. My dad has been emotionally and mentally abusive my whole life. My sister has disappeared completely from his life because he is a narcissistic abuser and she's much older than me.

My dad has a vacation booked with his new supply. And he's has been horrible towards me.. worse than when I was a child. He's now a raging racist against white people too. My daughter is half white. He's basically been making me feel like crap on top of going through a nasty custody battle. I'm young. His girlfriend somehow doesn't see any of the abuse or she's ignoring it, she's racist too so I'd say they are both idiots.

So my dad is wanting me to help him with money because according to him, he's loosing his house. I don't believe that at all and I have access to our mail and have not seen any evidence of this claim. Also he booked a vacation... which requires money.
Anyways, he wants me to start paying him I'd like to leave asap. Why is he lying and belittling me? I have nothing. I literally just told him I have to start over with a baby.. and he said in response that I'm selfish and I don't seem to understand that he needs help to. What is his problem? He literally hates me, he shows all the signs of someone who HATES me. Why does he hate me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man, that's a really tough situation you're dealing with. I can't imagine how hard it must be to have such a narcissistic and abusive dad on top of everything else you're going through. That's just messed up.

It sounds like your dad is trying to manipulate you and get money out of you, even though he's the one who's supposed to be supporting you right now. The fact that he's booking vacations and then turning around and saying he's about to lose his house is a huge red flag. He's obviously lying and trying to take advantage of you.

The whole "you're selfish" thing is such a classic narcissist move too. He's trying to make you feel guilty and make it all about him, when you're the one who's struggling and needs help. That's so wrong.

I'm really sorry you have to deal with that on top of everything else. It's not fair at all that your dad is adding to your pain instead of being there for you. You've been through so much already with that abusive ex, and now you have to worry about your dad too? That's way too much.

I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let him get to you. He's the one with the problem, not you. You've got enough on your plate without having to worry about his selfish demands and lies.

If you can, I'd try to limit contact with him as much as possible. Don't give in to his requests for money, even if he tries to guilt-trip you. Focus on taking care of yourself and your baby right now. That's what's most important.

And don't be afraid to reach out for help from other support systems, whether it's friends, family, or professional resources. You deserve so much better than the way your dad is treating you. Wishing you all the strength in the world, dude.

[Anonymous]

Your narcissistic father is manipulating you for money while belittling you. He lacks empathy, seeks control, and likely lies. Prioritize your safety and your child's, set firm boundaries, seek support, and focus on rebuilding your life. His behavior is not your fault.

[Nikki1989]

Your primary focus should be on protecting yourself and your daughter from further harm. Don't give him any money.