So i've been seeing my current boyfriend for a year, he went abroad for half of that year to work abroad for half a year. He's recently been back and yh we're not as close from the distance of being part so it feels weird interacting sometimes so i'm not really all giddy to be jumping back into bed with him since he only gave me 3 days notice before leaving. So he came back he loed for a new job, this job isn't paying as much as his old job did before he left, he wasn't here for his birthday so i didn't get him anything he didn't get me anything either he was having a hrad time financially i'm born in February his birthday is in September. He's been her 3 weeks and he already says he hates being back and complains about his new job a lot saying he doesn't do much but sit all day. I make more than he does with overtime and all that and i don't work long shifts but i don't get a lunch break, i work about 7-9 hours a day always in my feet and having to walk around a lot. He asked me what i'm getting for Christmas, i make close to a 100,000 every month but 60,000 out of that is split in half for saving for school and buying construction material to finish my place. He asked for rather reasonable present to use but its almost 20k for the present, he make less than i make now and his excuse for wanting such a gift is its not that expensive and I make more than he does. I feel he's just digging himself into a ditch, i was shocked but brushed it off and asked what he would get me, he said a Basinnett cause I'm always sleeping and barely leave my house and i could take it outside and take a nap, i didn't respond t his Christmas present suggestion but said i'd consider his gift. Was I bad girlfriend for doing that? We have a 9 yr age gap.I'm22.
Woah man, that's a tough situation. On one hand, you've been together for over a year so it's not like you're new or anything. But asking for such an expensive gift when he knows money is tight for you too seems a bit much. A few things stand out to me:
- He hasn't been super thoughtful with gifts himself like getting you something for your birthday while he was gone.
- He's complaining a lot about his new job already when he's only been back a little while. Money seems to be a big issue.
- You work hard and have a plan to save, so responsible of you not to blow cash.
- His gift idea for you (a basinette?) doesn't seem super caring or like he put thought into it.
I don't think you're a bad girlfriend for not immediately agreeing to such an expensive gift, especially when he knows money is tight too. Maybe have an honest chat with him about how his requests make you feel, see if he's willing to compromise. Relationships are all about communication and teamwork, not just getting expensive things. If he can't appreciate your side though, might be time to reevaluate things. You work hard - you deserve a partner who respects that!
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Girl leave him. He’s one big walking 🚩Leave. And absolutely under no circumstances give him the 20k gift or any other expensive gift, and definitely never any money. Ever. This man is using you and on top of that he’s a loser.
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