Have you ever reconciled with a family member after a long time of not talking a lot?

[Lynx122]

What was it like?

I'm gonna try and fix my relationship with my father. I never felt like he was really supporting me or I could rely on him when I was growing up but I want to try and figure it out with him.

I'm curious to hear other peoples experiences.

Have a nice evening :)

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

It happened with my mother.

When I was 19 she emptied my bank account and disappeared in another country. Our last conversation was her yelling at me over the phone about how I did nothing but kept ruining her life because my father and my aunt got me to press charges against her.

She returned a couple of years later, apparently genuinely sorry about it and to be honest she's been making amends ever since. We have our ups and downs but overall we are going well.

[Lynx122]

Damn that's a dramatic story but I'm glad you've sorted it out.

[exitseven]

I was angry with my father for years. He cheated on my mother and married somebody a lot younger than he was. Eventually I forgave him and we were starting to have a relationship again. Just before he retired I had a couple of things planned that we were going to do together.. The day before he was supposed to retire he went to work and collapsed and died.

[Lynx122]

Oh wow that's tragic. I'm sorry you didn't get to spend more time with him at the end.

[exitseven]

He really liked having a garden and one of my customers grew the winning giant pumpkin at the local county fair. I got him to give me some seeds from the biggest pumpkin. We were going to grow a giant pumpkin. I knew a shellfish warden on Cape Cod and he hooked me up with a clam digging permit. We were going to dig clams.
It never happened.

[MemeSupreme]

i feel you about the dad part. a lot of anger there lol good luck with that tho ik it's a lot

but yeah with my mom. first time when she abandoned me and came with a new dude when i was 7ish. that was complicated (too tired to type up). then until like a year ago i didn't talk to her for 3 years bc she got finally treated for NPD and her apology seemed genuine. it's not been easy but she's trying and it's my mom so i wanna make it work

[IslaTheWitch]

I have more family members than I can remember (and believe me, I have no problems with memory)... so it happens that some cousins from my grandma's very far away family are lost in action for some time :D but family is generous, and they forgive me if I don't reach out regularly

we meet at least once per year for different occasions in different settings, so sooner or later I talk with everyone :D

[Finchie40]

Yea my Father and I have been reconciling after a lot of years of barely talking to each other. When my Mom and my oldest brother passed away 3 months apart from each other , My Dad started to reconnect with me and we been trying to work things out. I don’t hate my Dad , I am just disappointed in him for his selfish behavior and the way he treated me and my brothers’ Alcoholic mainly

[ArrowheadSW]

I am fortunate that I have not been in that position, to have been at odds with a family member for any length of time. It is a major stress for a lot of families though! I feel for them. I know people in that position.

[PrincessC16]

Yes, just recently. I just gave up and went to see her. After 4 years of no contact.

[PrincessC16]

I had to give in. She never says that she's sorry. I had in because my mom is getting old and I want to be with her. But she needed to be out of my life at that time. Sometimes you have to remove people that are toxic in your life. So if someone is toxic, let them go.

[PrincessC16]

Oh, this is my mom I'm talking about.

[Lynx122]

Ok good luck to you :)

[PrincessC16]

Ty so much

[sage2021]

Yes!! We didn't speak for 7 years but now we're good 👍🏼

[Lynx122]

Nice! How was it when you first started talking again was it weird or difficult or was it not a big deal?

[sage2021]

It was on the phone. It was my 1/2 brother and he has some legal obligations to my son for when I go to heaven.
Actually it was my lawyer and my brother's wife who encouraged him to make amends with me again.
But it wasn't until about a week ago that I apologized to him for calling him a very bad name and hanging up the phone on him. However, if he wouldn't stop accusing me of something that I never did. He admitted at the time that he was embellishing the truth when he was making false accusations to me. He embellished the truth way too much until it was a damn lie!
So I told him that he used to be such a nice guy and asked what happened to you? Then he said "So what am I now"? And that's when I called him a very bad name and hung up on him.
I told him don't ask me a question if you can't accept the answer.
But after my recent apology he did thank me for apologizing to him.🙂

[DrPepper12]

I'm still estranged from my toxic family. The bullying, ego, lies, passive aggressiveness, intolerance was all too much

[Lynx122]

It's ok if you don't feel like it you don't have to connect with anybody :)

[dustybiker2]

Yes. Only to find out they are still exactly the same.

[robocop666]

No we stopped permanently. I like it this way.

[NathanDavis]

go for it dude...

just go for it

[DishLady]

Yes.