I just feel so low, I have not passed my driving test my Dad tried to give me tough love but it is not helping, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

My Dad, is trying to help me do driving but he makes me feel worse. This affecting my mental state. For example, once he was speeding and I pointed it out to him. He said I have passed my driving. This an awful thing to say to someone. Today I went driving he I freezed and he shouted and said come on you should know. I understand he is trying to help but he has made me feel worst. My Dad has also told me that I will fail with flying colours my driving test. It really hurt me and he always brings this up. I almost did not go to my test due to this but I did not feel good. My dad said I cannot handle the truth I believe I can. However it is the way he says it. Today I was practicing a manovore and he said you can’t do it. I have shown you in the past but you struggled stick to the way that I showed you. I know he is trying to help but I feel awful. As soon as we got back from driving. I ran to my room shaking and crying I feel so low.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Tough love isn’t discouraging someone, that’s emotional abuse. Tough love is being like “I know you can do this and I’m frustrated that you can’t do it.” He’s actively telling you he doesn’t believe in you, that’s not tough love.

[Asker]

He does not see what he done is wrong

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Shocker, an abuser doesn’t want to recognize their mistakes. I would just stop communicating with him and find someone else to practice with.

[Asker]

He is not an abuser, I feel awful about the whole situation

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You think having someone tell you that you’re trash is going to make you better? It’s not, it makes you worse. Try with someone who does positive reinforcement methods instead