I feel so low what can I do, I have not passed my driving?

[Anonymous]

My dad is trying to help me with driving, but it's actually making me feel worse and affecting my mental state. For example, one time when he was speeding, I pointed it out, and he said, "You’ve passed your driving." That really hurt, and it felt like an awful thing to say. Today, when we were driving, I froze, and he shouted at me, saying, "Come on, you should know this." I understand he’s trying to help, but it’s making me feel worse. He’s also told me that I’ll fail my driving test with “flying colors,” and it really hurt. He keeps bringing it up, and there was a time I almost didn’t go to my test because of it. I didn’t feel good about it, but I pushed myself to go. He says I can’t handle the truth, but I think I can—it’s just the way he says it. Today, when I was practicing a maneuver, he told me, "You can’t do it. I’ve shown you before, but you struggled. Stick to the way I showed you." I know he’s trying to help, but it makes me feel awful. When we got back from driving, I ran to my room shaking and crying. I feel so low.

[Valdemort]

You need someone to help you who's actually trained to do so. You clearly fear to fail, so a close relative is only gonna make it more difficult if they get passive aggressive, even if they mean well.
The way your dad communicates clearly doesn't work for you, you're gonna need to find someone who guides you in a way that works for you.

[Staximus]

You need to stop being a big baby and crying about everything, time to grow up and act like an adult. These are not things you need to get upset about.

[Asker]

Well it is frustrating I just want to pass very badly. I need a car to go to work.

[jahaims]

You shouldn't be allowed to drive if you struggle with it. I started driving rural around age 8. It isn't complicated

[Asker]

I don’t struggle

[fish5505_87]

You're 25-29 right, lol. Pay the money and take drivers ed!

[Asker]

I do pay the money, but I wanted to take additional lessons with my dad in my car.

[fish5505_87]

It's your life, but it seems to me he's toxic! is not going to be helpful. He will not bring your confidence up. Seems like you're trying to prove something to him or yourself. Your father should be encouraging you and telling you that you can do it. The physical act of driving is not that difficult and I am supremely confident you can do it! Go out there and get without him, that will prove something!