How is being a single mom an insult?

[chocolatetwopointo]

how is being a single mom and insult when the man is the one being irresponsible and avoiding being a father?

[alice55]

Because in majority of case it's women that leave the man for petty reasons (25 % of couple get separated when the child is not even one years old usually the women initiate in majority of case and they do it just becuase the man don't clean the house enough in their opinion which is crazy).

Man is usually not avoiding being a father it's usually the woman that make it difficult for the man to see the child and the father just respect the mother opinion usually. I know many case where the single mother tried to forbid the man from seeing his child.

[chocolatetwopointo]

u think its crazy for the woman to leave bc the man doesn't help?

whats ur sources?

[purplepoppy]

What of those who's husbands have died, perhaps tragically? Or those who divorced because their husbands beat them? I don't know the reason behind why she's a single mum so I don't judge.

If you're against single mums there's 3 options. Force mums to stay with abusive men.
Force widows to remarry.
Take away the kids.

None seems right to me.

[Effably]

I habe never heard of being a single parent being an insult. It is difficult enough of a task without being insulted for it.

Also, without knowing the specific situation we have no idea if the mother, father or neither one is unwilling. There are plenty of reasons a woman might be a single mother without the father refusing to be there. Many men are excluded against their will and also, us guys do a lot of dumb stuff that sometimes gets us killed. Just seems wrong to judge anyone without knowing their story.

[Chazmatazz269]

That’s not always the case. In fact, women initiate divorce and breakups more than twice as often as men. More often than not, if a woman is a single mother, she made that choice all by herself. There’s no way around that being a bad decision either. Either he’s a good dude and she shouldn’t have kicked him to the curb, or he’s abusive or a deadbeat and she shouldn’t have had sex with him in the first place.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah no. and did you know men r more likely to leave their kid? its not her fault if he leaves. ah yes blame the woman for the man leaving, as always. men cannot handle any responsebility.

[Chazmatazz269]

It’s too bad about your feelings not being supported by facts. You’re young. Hopefully you’ll grow out of it. If not, you’re going to create a lot of unnecessary drama for yourself.

[chocolatetwopointo]

what facts and what r ur sources?

[chocolatetwopointo]

ofc a man calling a single mom unnecessary drama, basic male.

[LavenderHaze]

I agree with you - if anything, being a single mom is an amazing show of strength and resilience because it is hard going raising a child when you’re just one person who has to do everything.

[MasterKS]

@LavenderHaze I think single dad is so tough, single mom is more easier because women are more capable.

[LavenderHaze]

Yes, single parenting in general is much tougher!

[chocolatetwopointo]

how are women more capable?

[MasterKS]

@LavenderHaze 100%

[Luopio27]

That is a cruel stereotype of single fathers. There are countless broken families where the woman is the one who left the responsibilities.


And yes, there are also many men that have left the responsibilities to the mother. It goes both ways!

[chocolatetwopointo]

sure but more men leave women with kids, thats a fact, wether u like it or not.

[spartan55]

What if the woman cheats on the man and he leaves? Still his fault?

[chocolatetwopointo]

im talking ab when he leaves bc she's pregnant, and even if she cheated he should take responsebility for the kid and at least pay child support

[spartan55]

Of course he should pay support regardless IF IT'S HIS KID. If she cheated and got pregnant by another dude? Don't think so. Guys straight up ditching women when they are pregnant happens, but isn't common. Every situation is different.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah then its settled, this is what im saying.

[Rohaan2020]

it's not an insult at all... it's the symbol of strength

[chocolatetwopointo]

if only everyone saw it that way

[Rohaan2020]

If we always worry about what others think or see then we can never stay happy… people like to judge others no matter what they do…. So, one should only focus on themselves ignoring what others think, in order to stay haapy and in peace…. And yes focus on themselves ignoring doesn’t mean to harm others for selfish reasons… just not letting others affect your inner peace… we don’t live for validation… we live to be happy

[Anonymous]

Stop shit posting just so you can argue.

[MasterKS]

you knocked her off! LOL!

[MasterKS]

Its her choice rather than insult.

[chocolatetwopointo]

how is it her choice if he leaves?

[MasterKS]

@chocolatetwopointo she can marry again if she want and if she stays single its her choice.

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah cuz men r famous for liking single moms. bffr.

[MasterKS]

@chocolatetwopointo yes easy option.

[chocolatetwopointo]

LMAO riight, men won't take care of another mans kid bffr

[PaleDale]

It's not

[chocolatetwopointo]

it is.