I really need opinions, I have no one to talk to irl?

[Anonymous]

I have this draining friend.. Whenever I call her out, she never admits anything. I hate lying so much, and sometimes I don’t even confront her, she’ll come to me with the most ridiculous things, expecting me to believe them. She’s always “testing” me (disappearing even though I know she’s on her phone), not opening the TikToks or memes I send “because she’s not active,” but at the same time she’s reposting regularly.
She expresses her feelings openly, which always makes me look like the bad guy. But when I’m hurt, I usually stay quiet — because even if I say something, she won’t admit it. She often says one thing but does the complete opposite, and that’s a huge red flag for me, i know i’m sensitive and i notice everything and that’s why I’m struggling lol.
she can be happy and fine with her other friends, so it’s not like I’m shaming her personality. Sometimes I even wonder if maybe I’m the problem, maybe she doesn’t even want to be friends with me but most of the time she’s the one planning our hangouts. We’ve had many arguments, and I’ve even told her before: if she feels that bad around me, we can stop being friends (no drama, no beef). But she never agrees.
Now I don’t know what to do. Should I talk to her again (even though we’ve talked so many times and she still doesn’t understand)? Should I just keep playing dumb and joking around like nothing’s wrong?
I know she’s struggling mentally but she can be fine with the other group, and i also struggle with depression and i try so hard to not let it affect anyone.
I feel like friendship shouldn’t be this hard! I honestly feel like she’s my boyfriend, not my friend.

[TrimmedTip]

This ‘friendship’ is emotional labor with no ROI. Here’s the hard truth:
She’s not confused—she’s manipulative. Testing you, gaslighting, and weaponizing vulnerability? Classic toxicity.
You’re not ‘sensitive’—you’re perceptive. Your gut knows this is one-sided. Trust it.
Mental health isn’t a free pass. If she can function fine with others but drains you, that’s a her-with-you problem.
What to Do:
Stop confronting. She won’t change. Match her energy—reply slower, share less, fade out.
Protect your peace. “I’m taking space for my mental health” needs no debate.
Find friends who add to your life, not audit it.
You’re not her therapist or emotional punching bag. Exit the drama.

[Anonymous]

You need to find people you can talk to in real life. At least get 2 friends. Join groups and organizations that relate to things you are interested in and even churches and go to these things consistently and meet a lot of people and you will discover a few people you can be friends with. Try to always give them more than you take from them, and find people who will do that in return so the friendship is balanced.

[Sam1133]

Hun this is one sided friendship from your side..

[Asker]

It’s funny because she’s the one who’s always saying this

[Sam1133]

I feel you maam whenever you need friend just hit me in pm i know how its feel when you dont have anyone to talk.

[BarryLiverstone]

in my opinion, make more friends