I have literally no one to discuss life matters with?

[Anonymous]

You know, like the type of conversations: “Should I take this job or not?” - scheming out the steps. I find it virtually impossible for me to move forward without consulting somebody. I didn’t always have best friends, but even when I didn’t, I still had, for example, my coworkers to chat with. But since I’m self-employed, I feel like that character in Gravity. And then it also has to be somebody who knows what’s up and I have a rather peculiar lifestyle with peculiar problems.

[Bárbara1402]

Well not sure what is your job but don’t you have for example suppliers that you have a great relationship with and understand the business that might advise you what to do? Sometimes it’s also helpful to ask the opinion of a stranger because that’s the most honest answer you will get since they don’t know you and don’t owe you anything.
I believe that most of the times we have already decided in our head we just want to hear what other people have to say in case our own judge wasn’t correct but even if people don’t agree with your decision I bet you will still go forward with it.

[Asker]

um no. i need them to order to discuss in order to arrive at the best solution. i can't possibly know everything

[MontBlanc]

You don’t lack ability , you lack a sounding board.

Some people think best through dialogue.

Being self employed removes that casual “does this make sense?” space, so decisions feel heavier.

You’re not weak, you’re wired to process collaboratively.

You probably don’t need many people.
Just one aligned mind to exchange with.

[Asker]

Sounds like u know smth about this problrm

[MontBlanc]

A bit, yes. I’ve noticed that some people process ideas better through conversation rather than in isolation.

Having even one trusted person to bounce thoughts off can make a huge difference.

[FunkyMonkee]

I'm kinda the same way, I've had absolutely NO ONE to talk to for quite a few years, now! The only friend I had just died 6 weeks ago!!

[Asker]

yes, think discussing fitness with somebody versus discussing fitness while being a pro athlete. those are two completely different things

[Asker]

most likely only another athlete could understand the stakes

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah, I guess so.

[Anonymous]

Join organizations related to your work. Then you can talk about that and make friends to do other things with also.

[jahaims]

You are in you 30s with no friends. That is on you