Why would my slim friend only invite me out to make herself look good and men flirt with her in front of me?

[Anonymous]

I’ve known her since high school but we didn’t interact with her much. We have started talking more and hung out often. She is a very cool, hip and fashionable girly girl. Well I used to thing she’s a sweetheart until tonight. She invited me out to the club and I didn’t want to at first. She insisted since I sit in the house too much.

Anyways I’ve always been a chubby girl all my life. People think I was cute the way I am and I don’t need to be like those skinny or thin girls. I have NEVER been at a healthy weight. Ever! I have always struggled with weight loss. My friend has always been on the skinny side.
She gained weight, but she looks AMAZING and healthy. I gain weight and I look like a fucking potato! She’s still slim. She said she went from 97lbs to 132lbs. She’s 5’5. I’m 5’10. 236bs. So we went to the club right? Had fun and of course guys flirted with her and ignored me. This cute tall man was looking at me and I thought I had a chance but he was asking about my stunning friend. Of course he did!

I heard some guys mocking me and saying how tall I am and I am so heavily I can break a guy during sex. I got called fat. I overheard my friends girl pals say she only invited me out of pitty and did that to make herself look good since she’s slim and stunning. I looked at my friend, gave her a disgusting look and walked away. She asked me where I was going and I screamed that she only used me to make herself look better. I heard her girl pals. She told me they aren’t her girl pals. She knows them from college and they must of said that. I didn’t want to hear it and of course the slim women gets the attention. I told her I never wanted to see her again. I left the club and cried. She tried to text and call. I refuse to answer.

[Ironic_Method]

You seem like the asshole here. Your friend would get attention regardless of inviting you out and it's certainly not her fault that these guys are interested in her and not you when you have control over your weight. Your insecurities seems like it ruined this friendship of yours.

And I wouldn't put any stock in what friends of friends say, personally.

[Asker]

So I’m the bad guy here? She made me look bad and her girl pals said she only invited me to make herself look better than me! And I’m the bad guy? Don’t you get me started on my weight! I know I need to lose weight. I actually lost 40th so far. Still my soon to be ex friend used me! Guys flirted with her and I got ignored! I’m not the asshole! She is! I’m not speaking to her anymore. She told me what the hell was that before and I knew she isn’t that kind of person and I acted very stupid. I told her she used me. She was shocked and said she wanted to make me out to have a good time. Those girls were the toxic and if I was a true friend, I would know she would never do that to me.
She always gets men’s attention more than me! Even my former crush ended up liking her that night and I’m angry at her for stealing my 6’5 crush. With her 5’5, slim ass

[Ironic_Method]

Yeah... it's good that you're not talking to her, for her sake. You are needlessly hostile and your insecurities are eating you alive.

[Asker]

She lied to be about wanting to hang out and have a girls night but of coursed her and the other girls are hot mamas and I’m this 236lbs ogre that gets ignored. I NEVER get that attention other than from chubby or fat guys.

[Anonymous]

Don't let these people gaslight you. She was wrong and even if you are somewhat insecure, that doesn't mean she has a right to do that and I'm sure there's guys that don't want a "slim" woman. If you're overweight, out of shape then exercise and eat healthier, but don't do it for other people, do it for yourself.

[Asker]

Thank you! Finally somebody understands what I’m saying. Everyone keeps saying I’m the bad guy? My soon to be ex friend is the bad guy. Some thin girls always do this to us heavy girls

[Anonymous]

U sound insanely insecure. U do understand that whenever u go out there will be other hot women around u other than your friend. U are gonna get ignored either ways. So stop being bitter and hating on her

[Asker]

Im not hating on her. I’m just sick of people inviting me out of pitty. I’m sick of seeing prettier girls get attention. I’m sick of hot women always getting attention and tall chubby women get ignored

[Opinion Owner]

Become skinny. A tall skinny women is the ultimate dream of both men and women

[Asker]

We’ll I’m trying too. I lost 40 pounds so far. I used to be 276, now I’m 236. Most skinny women hate being skinny.
I’m trying to get to like 175

[Opinion Owner]

lol. U were just getting jealous of skinny women.

[Asker]

I AM jealous of skinny/thin/slim women!

[Opinion Owner]

Then it’s your problem. U are being a bitter jealous bitch

[Asker]

How dare you? I’m an jealous I will give you that but I am not a bitch! You’re saying I’m wrong and she’s right for attracting men?

[Opinion Owner]

😂. U want to attract men. It’s just that u suck

[Asker]

You’re mean

[DryGermanGuy]

So, drop 50 pounds, use your hight advantage and return in new glory. 👏