Why do the people I know bottle up their hurt and frustrations over what I've said and done... yet get malicious when they can't take it anymore?

[Anonymous]

How am I supposed to know I've hurt your feelings if you dont tell me?

[MontBlanc]

Usually because they don’t feel safe addressing things early.

Some people avoid conflict, so they stay quiet, let things build up, and hope it passes. But bottled feelings don’t disappear , they turn into resentment. When it finally comes out, it comes out messy.

It doesn’t always mean you did something terrible. It can also mean they lack the skills to communicate boundaries or speak up in the moment.

Healthy relationships need small honest conversations before things become big explosions.

[strateguy632]

You are right but they try to hide for avoiding conflict but they should not be fake. Reference season 4 everyone loves Raymond Thanksgiving episode.

[Anonymous]

It's called having empathy and observing non verbal communication.