Would you rather have a friend who constantly flirts with you trying to win you over or one who understands you but has no dating interest?

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MrChinaski · Accepted Answer

Someone constantly flirting with you despite rejection seems plain annoying, whereas a platonic friendship is valuable.

But that feels like a bit of a straw man contest. More interesting is the space between deep, emotionally-connected friendship and deep, emotionally connected friendship with mutual romantic desire. That space is very porous, in my experience.

uzumymw · Accepted Answer

Rather have a friend who understands me and doesn't want my meat snake I have people trying to get in my pants already, but good friends are not around a lot Only a handful are my true friends

7Phoenix7 · Accepted Answer

A friend that constantly tries to win you over isn’t a friend. They are someone pursuing me. A friend is someone who understands you and not trying to get in your pants lol.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

One who understands me with no dating interest. They’re a friend, no? Why would I want my friend to have feelings for me, that defeats the purpose.

Abbycado · Answer

The second option. The first would annoy me.

MontBlanc · Answer

The one who understands you.  Flirting can feel nice, but being understood builds real connection and trust.  Attention is temporary.  Understanding lasts.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Can't it be both? I want both...  Though if I had a friend who does that she wouldn't be a friend for very long cause ya know I'd be with her. You may call it desperate I call it simple.

loveslongnails · Answer

To me, a friend is a friend. A flirty friend isn't really trying to win me over romantically; she just likes to flirt. If a woman wants me romantically, she's not going to stick around forever if I'm not interested, so I don't believe the term friend would apply to her.

Still-alive · Answer

I definitely like flirting but if iit's ultimately not gonna lead anywhere it could get tiring after awhile

so i choose being understood but no dating interest. a friendship like that can still feel just as fulfilling imho

WhitneySnow · Answer

The second one. Friends aren’t there to be in your dating pool. I need understanding from friends, not romance.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Well, hopefully they are smart enough to know I am married.

lilBigPotato · Answer

If I'm not interested in him then the constant flirting would be super annoying so second.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

If I let a "friend" harassing me this way it would be because I would enjoy receiving so much positive attention. That also means I would enjoy one-sided relations.

MysticDevice · Answer

I've had both and each is problematic in its own way.

MissSunshine2 · Answer

That depends on how I feel for this person.

NathanDavis · Answer

the first... is not a friend as simple as that

qwerty2469 · Answer

Letting a friend out of the friend zone was the biggest mistake of my life.

cigsaftermusic · Answer

I’d never flirt with a friend. I only flirt with people I’m romantically interested in.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

I don't think friends should flirt. That would be rather confusing.

Jerre · Answer

I like a woman who constantly flirts with me

queenofcardio · Answer

A friend who understands

Anonymous · Answer

Understands me but has no dating interest.  You said a friend.

Kelly6 · Answer

@anon1903 someone who trys to win me over

serious · Answer

One who understands me but has no dating interest.

TheBlueTree · Answer

One who understands me.

LEGENDARY4200 · Answer

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