Why does my guy friend keep asking me what I am doing for Valentine’s Day?

[Anonymous]

I keep telling him I am busy and I’m going to be with my best friend. Then he asked if I’m doing anything Saturday night. Then he asked for my address.
I asked why do you need it. He said he wanted to give me a valentine day gift and something special.

Im afraid he will ask me to be his girlfriend but the thing is I don’t want to be his girlfriend. I value our friendship way too much and I just don’t want a relationship. My parents, friends and family knows he likes me. He keeps asking what I am doing and I have told him so many times WE ARE JUST FRIENDS!
If I reject him people will get upset with me. I wish he would take a hint. After 18 years he needs to move on! If he asks me to be his girlfriend I will say NO.
No other guy shown interest in me accept him. What do I do?

We’re both autistic. My guy friend has been more consistent texting me everyday. I think it’s because he is trying to get his shot either me before other men do. I prefer black men and he’s white. I’m black.

[ohsheeT]

First of all, who cares, if people are upset, if you reject him, they're not living your life, you are living your life and you need to be happy. So you make your own choices. Don't worry about what other people think


As far as he goes, you can explain it to him like this. Look at we are good friends right now. We are great friends right now. I respect you as my friend think about this for a minute.

Let's just pretend we started dating.\n I know for a fact it would not work because of this reason or this reason or this reason that's why I do not want to date with you. That's why I don't want to have sex with you. Because I value our friendship relationship more than anything. And I'm not willing To risk having sex with you or being your girlfriend and then everything ends because we are not happy, sorry, but that's just the way it's going to be, I value the friendship I already know it's not going to work if we were going to get into a relationship and tell him he needs. To be honest with himself because he knows the same thing. He just wants to get in your pants. But he's not willing to be honest with himself. He's letting his d*** do the thinking for him

[Anonymous]

It is likely your friend is persistently asking about Valentine's Day because he is planning a romantic gesture or a confession of his feelings. Since you are both autistic, he may struggle to interpret subtle hints or indirect rejections.

You are not obligated to date someone just because your family or friends like him.

If you tell him "no" and he continues to push, it is okay to take a break from the friendship or limit your daily texting to regain your comfort.

Good luck

[Asker]

Thank you. I hope he doesn’t ask me to be his girlfriend. I value our friendship way too much and I don’t want that to be ruined.

[Opinion Owner]

In case he asked them avoid saying things like I am not ready right now or Maybe later. These give false hope that the situation might change in the future.

Good luck.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Dude, if he’s autistic he CANNOT UNDERSTAND HINTS. Reject him outright, tell him you’re creeped out by the idea of him having your address, you will never fuck him, if he gets upset about it then fine. He’ll either get over it or he’ll never talk to you again because he only wanted to befriend you because he wanted to fuck you

[Asker]

Okay here’s the thing, we’ve known each other since we were 8 years old. He doesn’t fuck girls. He never had a girlfriend and he only wants me

[Asker]

I’m autistic too

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Okay, doesn’t change the fact that autism means he takes things at face value. You need to be clear and allow his feelings to be hurt. You won’t be hated for saying you don’t want to be with him.

[Asker]

He says I’m his girlfriend but I said no I am not. We’ve never been on dates!

[Asker]

I think he’s doing this to keep guys away from me or jump in before guys can

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Then he’s not your friend, he’s being an asshole on purpose. You don’t owe him anything just because you shared parts of your childhood together. Ditch the bitch