I feel better when I’m not talking to my mother/ family…. Why?

[Anonymous]

I appreciate every positive thing that my mother has done for me but it doesn’t outweigh some of the hurt that it caused me.

I started not liking my aunts and other family because of their obvious loyalty to her because that’s their sister but I told them of the things that hurt me and they told me to get over it.

my mom likes my trans cousin way better and she said that her, my cousin and my aunt were going to all move in together and asked if I wanted to come…. And jokingly said “no way” and my aunt said “we don’t want you there anyway “ and she said it with an attitude…

I appreciate what they all did for me but I don’t know where I genuinely stand with my family and I decided to go no contact.

[jennifer_bloom]

My mother hates me because she never wanted children and became pregnant purely so my dad would marry her and spend his money on her. Since she never wanted children she has abused me and disrespected me all my life to punish me out of her anger that I exist and am alive. She also tried to murder me after she became a Canadian citizen by denying medical treatment when I had two diseases at 9 years old, because now that she was a citizen and married, she no longer had use of a child and could discard me to make her life functionally easier since children require care and effort to raise up. She will slander and invent non existent and imaginary reasons to yell at me hundreds or thousands of times a day because she is furious that I am still alive after she tried so hard to kill me. And she wants my dad to leave me out of the will and leave his money and home to others in the hopes I will be homeless after he dies. That is why I am hoping God will be good to me and make sure my mom dies before my dad dies. My mom is developing brain problems but my dad has a multi year coughing issue, so I am not sure which one will die first.

[slatyb]

Probably because they don't respect you or support you and your interactions are unpleasant. If you don't want to see them, then don't, or just limit contact.

[Anonymous]

You probably should have moved on a long time ago.

[Asker]

Definitely but didn’t have the confidence