Why do people think they have the right to tell you what to do?

[palewhale]

they get to comfortable with you and start over stepping the line. They aren't my family and just anger me that they think they have a right to give me advice i never asked for or tell me how to live. i doubt they are perfect, especially going around giving unsolicited advice to people

[HollyK21]

If you didn’t say any of this to their face then that’s why. If you don’t advocate for yourself and let them know when they’re overstepping or giving unwarranted advice then they won’t know you have a problem with hearing it. Also, if you tell them about any aspects of your life, then they will feel entitled/inclined to comment on whatever was said.

[palewhale]

i dont willing share anything with them

[HollyK21]

What sort of advice are they giving you then?

[palewhale]

telling me to forgive the unforgivable and to declutter, stick in a job that was a set up and had no choice in that i hate.

[HollyK21]

Yeah, I wouldn’t share anything else going forward. Doesn’t sound like they’re giving the best advice especially on things you don’t care to hear their opinions on. People can be nosey, they can also think they’re helping when they’re really not. I’m a very private person for reasons like this exactly.

[beenherebefore]

See I believe most people who do this don't do it with bad intentions, especially if you're referring to people who tell you what to do with your personal life. Some people are also not familiar with boundaries as well. If you think their overstepping a boundary let them know in a friendly way that you're a grown woman who can take care of herself.

[Master_Debator]

We're human... the people that are face to face with you do a whole lot of shit to politically suit themselves. The advice probably always benefits their own situation. ... You see why I have reduced fellow humans to the status of monkies yet... or should I go deeper?

[AgentG111]

Some people are just bossy and no bodies ever put them in there place.

Set your boundaries and stick to your guns!

[palewhale]

yea, i just went to town on them all. I dont feel good about it because it falls on deaf ears, just exhausted

[AgentG111]

It's not deaf ears. You vented and all's good! Set your boundaries!

[palewhale]

it would help if i had an electric fence and taser

[AgentG111]

Wow! Fence and taser just be careful you don't confuse that taser with an electric razor

[palewhale]

what a silly thing to say

[AgentG111]

Guess you have never seen the comic about the Husband police officer returning home because he got his wife's razor and it shows his wife on the floor with his taser.
Caption reads, wow hunny you'll never believe the day I had!

[Billlewis]

Although I would never assume such liberties with a woman, I'm firmly convinced that I'm happiest and most fulfilled when the woman who owns me orders me around the majority of the time. The more strict she becomes, the more fun she'll experience.

[Rangers]

It's one thing to make suggestions, share experiences and just have a discussion but I can see why people would get annoyed at times.

At the same time, you can't look at things with a fragile ego and take every little thing as a condescending insult. Doing so shows a remarkable lack of maturity and insecurity which requires significant reflection and work to fix

[madhatters4]

try to just listen and then chose to follow the advice or not

opinions are like a$$holes right? everyone has one.

i try not to be bothered by opinions. waste of your energy

[Nikki1989]

People tell others what to do for all kinds of reasons, but almost none of them are actually about you. They’re usually about their own fears, insecurities, or worldview.

[abc3643]

Little Miss Bossy

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Iu_EHcay9B8

[queenofcardio]

They became comfortable and assumed it was okay.

Time to distance yourself from them or create better boundaries.

[WhitneySnow]

Who are they to you?